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Is the Change Triangle for Self-help or Psychotherapy?
Just like we learn in high school that we have a heart, brain, and stomach, learning about emotions reduces self-judgment and increases curiosity when emotions arise in ourselves or others.
4 days ago4 min read


What a Legacy Award for “It’s Not Always Depression” Book Means—And Why It Matters for You
What if the very thing you’ve been trying to get rid of—your anxiety, your sadness, your overwhelm—is actually the path to feeling better?
Apr 143 min read


Stop Saying "He/She Got Dumped." Here's why.
Referring to a person in the midst of a breakup as being "dumped" is unnecessarily harsh and hurtful.
Mar 222 min read


The Healing Power of Hugs
Could a hug really have such an effect on depression? The notion has stayed with me ever since.
Feb 75 min read


Steel, Not Snowflakes: Real Grit Means Mastering Your Emotions
Humanity has always prized strength. From soldiers and athletes to business leaders and doctors, we admire people who can keep their cool when the pressure is rising. But here’s a truth we don’t talk about enough: strength isn’t about avoiding emotions to the detriment of our mental health, it’s the ability to master emotions by learning how to use them. For too long, we’ve equated toughness with never showing feelings. But stuffing down emotions doesn’t make us strong—it mak
Jan 83 min read


When the Holidays Hurt: How Christopher and Alison Found Relief
Many people assume that families should get along, and enjoy the holidays. But for a surprising number of us, that’s not reality.
Dec 8, 20253 min read


Helping Teens Thrive: Why Educators and Youth-Serving Professionals Need Emotions Education 101™
One of my pet peeves is that I didn't receive a proper education in emotions until I was almost 40 years old. Until I saw the Change Triangle, I judged myself for what I felt and had no tools to help myself move through emotions like anger, anxiety, depression, and shame.
Dec 5, 20254 min read


What Do You Want Me to Do? A Tip for Relationships
Feeling like a nagging wife or partner? Here’s a tip to change that dynamic.
Nov 10, 20252 min read


A Welcome Letter for Parents on Emotions from Hilary and Juli
Read the one-page welcome letter excerpted from "Parents Have Feelings, Too: A Guide to Navigating Your Emotions So You And Your Family Can Thrive."
Oct 7, 20253 min read

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