Healing From Trauma Means Dealing With Disgust
This article was originally published on Slate.com on 6/20/22. Irene recently came to therapy because her anxiety had been revving up,...
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Aug 7
- 5 min
My Crooked Path to Becoming a Psychotherapist & Striving to Be My Authentic Self
Changing careers was scary, but hating my job was worse.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 9
- 8 min
Feel Like a Fraud Sometimes? Here's How to Work With Yourself
Cutting-edge self-help tips to feel more confident when experiencing imposter syndrome or feeling insecure.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 9
- 4 min
“He’s an Idiot!” Considering the Judgments We All Make
"He's an idiot," my father would snap when someone didn't do something the way he wanted. It didn't bother me then. But now I realize my...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 10
- 5 min
A New Approach to Diminishing FOMO
A new approach to dealing with FOMO by tending to the underlying core emotions in the body using the Change Triangle as a guide.
The Emotional Toll of Traumatic Brain Injury
The emotional challenges following a traumatic brain injury are many.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 7
- 3 min
Four Ways to Engage with the Change Triangle Tool for Emotional Health
Most people have never had any emotions education at all. In 2022, this is an astounding fact. As a result of the lack of education in...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 10
- 4 min
22 Crucial Things to Know About Emotions for Emotional Health
Our dysfunctional society fails to educate us on emotions. Here are a few basics to start you on your way to more knowledge.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 7, 2021
- 3 min
Mourning for the Self & Healing from Trauma
Healing from trauma requires self-compassion and feeling for ourselves. Mourning paves the way to increased vitality and connectedness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 7, 2021
- 3 min
Two Powerful Techniques to Lower Anxiety
Two effective techniques to decrease anxiety based on accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP) and the Change Triangle® tool.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 10, 2021
- 7 min
5 Crucial Qualities to Seek in a Life Partner
Dating tips for finding emotional intimacy and connection
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 7, 2021
- 4 min
Going Back to School Later in Life
Going back to school is both exciting and scary. Learning a few techniques to calm anxiety will help.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Aug 8, 2021
- 5 min
Pick Your Poison: Guilt or Resentment
For most of us the “guilt versus resentment choice” will rear its difficult head. When those times arise, here are some tips that might.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 5, 2021
- 4 min
5 Important Things to Know About Toxic Shame
Hilary Jacobs Hendel explains the difference between healthy and toxic shame. The Change Triangle tool guides healing.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 10, 2021
- 4 min
A Simple Guide to Damage Control When You're About to "Lose it"
Emotions make it hard not to react. Here's a simple mantra for damage control.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 7, 2021
- 5 min
From Confusion to Clarity
(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 8, 2021
- 4 min
3 Reasons to Hold Hope for Healing Emotional Pain
It's hard to hold hope that healing and transformation are possible especially if nothing has helped so far. Here's why I hold hope.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 9, 2021
- 5 min
The Important Difference Between Anxiety and Fear
Anxiety and fear are words often used interchangeably. But they are not the same! Distinguishing between anxiety and fear is crucial.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 8, 2021
- 5 min
4 Ways to Increase Joy: Putting the Science of Joy into Everyday Practice
Joy is one of the seven core emotions on the Change Triangle. Joy, like all core emotions, has a particular feeling in the body, although...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel and Jean Lannin
- Dec 10, 2020
- 6 min
Surviving Loneliness: Living in the Grey
Reflections and resources to undo aloneness.