Could a hug really have such an effect on depression? The notion has stayed with me ever since.

Humanity has always prized strength. From soldiers and athletes to business leaders and doctors, we admire people who can keep their cool when the pressure is rising. But here’s a truth we don’t talk about enough: strength isn’t about avoiding emotions to the detriment of our mental health, it’s the ability to master emotions by learning how to use them. For too long, we’ve equated toughness with never showing feelings. But stuffing down emotions doesn’t make us strong—it mak

Many people assume that families should get along, and enjoy the holidays. But for a surprising number of us, that’s not reality.

One of my pet peeves is that I didn't receive a proper education in emotions until I was almost 40 years old. Until I saw the Change Triangle, I judged myself for what I felt and had no tools to help myself move through emotions like anger, anxiety, depression, and shame.

Feeling like a nagging wife or partner? Here’s a tip to change that dynamic.

Read the one-page welcome letter excerpted from "Parents Have Feelings, Too: A Guide to Navigating Your Emotions So You And Your Family Can Thrive."

We can only meet our children’s feelings when we know how to meet our own.

Permission to feel our emotions is very different than permission to act on our emotions.

Culturally, we may picture women as more emotional and men as more stoic. But neuroscience tells a different story. Having and expressing emotions isn’t a “female thing” or a “male thing.”It’s a human thing.

Some of us were taught to “tone it down” or not get our hopes up. We have learned to disavow our excitement, a core emotion.

In a system stretched thin and often focused on symptom management, AEDP offers something radically different.

We greatly benefit from understanding which emotions are affecting us and why. By feeling it through and thinking it through, we get the best outcomes. When we work the Change Triangle, we get calmer, more curious, more compassionate, and we gain clarity.

There are many ways to unburden ourselves.

Anger happens to all of us. When we get angry, we must work with it so we don't suppress it. Suppressing anger makes us depressed and/or anxious. We also work with anger so we don't act it out, which hurts others and our relationships. In order to work effectively with our anger, we first need to know what kind of anger it is. There are two kinds to consider: Core anger, and; Defensive anger Core anger Core anger is a survival emotion which arises when we perceive an attack

Consider these scripts designed to soften defenses so you can relate more authentically with emotions in mind.

When you make a mistake do you pick yourself up or beat yourself up?

Shame is an excruciating emotion that makes it hard (or impossible) to be seen as hurtful, fallible, or wrong.

Being connected feels good and right. But have you ever asked yourself, "What does connection feels like?"