Hilary Jacobs Hendel | The Change Triangle

There are many ways to unburden ourselves.

Anger happens to all of us. When we get angry, we must work with it so we don't suppress it. Suppressing anger makes us depressed and/or...

Consider these scripts designed to soften defenses so you can relate more authentically with emotions in mind.

When you make a mistake do you pick yourself up or beat yourself up?

Shame is an excruciating emotion that makes it hard (or impossible) to be seen as hurtful, fallible, or wrong.

Being connected feels good and right. But have you ever asked yourself, "What does connection feels like?"

Anxiety is a signal that we must tend to underlying core emotions. This video explains how. The Change Triangle is the guide.

It's typical for one person in a couple to be a better listener, which can cause pain and strife. Here are tips that help connection.

Understanding and working with emotions is key not only for health and personal wellbeing, but for being maximally effective in the...

The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.

For years I lamented my curvy figure. I wanted to be flat-chested and look like a boy or a model.

Perfectionism gives us the illusion of control in the midst of emotions that feel out of control, especially when we’re young.

When responding to a child, understanding emotions is crucial.

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. - Aristotle Lillian, a patient of mine, didn’t know who she truly was. She lacked a...

Guilt and jealousy are two very challenging emotions. The approaches I share here have helped me with them immensely.

Ever walk into a room and feel all eyes are looking at you? You imagine people are judging your every flaw. You start to shrink and think...

For many of us, our early experiences with emotions involved us being told to "get over it" in one way or another.

I was anxious as a kid. To avoid my worries, I focused on schoolwork and after-school jobs. At that time, I had no idea my anxiety had...

Being a mother is the hardest job in the world even when things go smoothly. When you have a child who suffers the hardest job gets harder.

I was on the subway and I witnessed a needless escalation of anger that ended with somebody being punched in the face. I was shaken and...