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What Do You Want Me to Do? A Tip for Relationships
Feeling like a nagging wife or partner? Here’s a tip to change that dynamic.
4 days ago2 min read


A Welcome Letter for Parents on Emotions from Hilary and Juli
Read the one-page welcome letter excerpted from "Parents Have Feelings, Too: A Guide to Navigating Your Emotions So You And Your Family Can Thrive."
Oct 73 min read


"I Hate Myself When I Yell at My Kids" and How Understanding Emotions Helps
We can only meet our children’s feelings when we know how to meet our own.
Sep 73 min read


It’s Valid to Feel, Not to Explode: Why Emotions Aren’t Excuses
Permission to feel our emotions is very different than permission to act on our emotions.
Aug 92 min read


What Every Man Should Know About Emotions (That No One Taught Us)
Culturally, we may picture women as more emotional and men as more stoic. But neuroscience tells a different story. Having and expressing emotions isn’t a “female thing” or a “male thing.”It’s a human thing.
Jul 74 min read


Don’t Forget Excitement: An Overlooked Core Emotion
Some of us were taught to “tone it down” or not get our hopes up. We have learned to disavow our excitement, a core emotion.
Jun 73 min read


The Change Triangle and AEDP in Under-Resourced Communities
In a system stretched thin and often focused on symptom management, AEDP offers something radically different.
May 94 min read


Don't Just Think It Through - Feel It Through. Name Your Emotions!
We greatly benefit from understanding which emotions are affecting us and why. By feeling it through and thinking it through, we get the best outcomes. When we work the Change Triangle, we get calmer, more curious, more compassionate, and we gain clarity.
Apr 163 min read


Unburdening
There are many ways to unburden ourselves.
Mar 123 min read


The Two Kinds of Anger and How to Process Them
Anger happens to all of us. When we get angry, we must work with it so we don't suppress it. Suppressing anger makes us depressed and/or...
Jan 284 min read


Scripts to Get Beyond Defensiveness to Relate Authentically with Emotions
Consider these scripts designed to soften defenses so you can relate more authentically with emotions in mind.
Dec 7, 20243 min read


When You Make a Mistake, What Happens Next?
When you make a mistake do you pick yourself up or beat yourself up?
Oct 7, 20242 min read


“It’s me. Hi. I’m the problem. It’s me.” The Agony and the Ecstasy of Accountability
Shame is an excruciating emotion that makes it hard (or impossible) to be seen as hurtful, fallible, or wrong.
Aug 6, 20243 min read


What Does Connection Feel Like?
Being connected feels good and right. But have you ever asked yourself, "What does connection feels like?"
Jun 7, 20244 min read


Emotions Education: A Missing Piece
Anxiety is a signal that we must tend to underlying core emotions. This video explains how. The Change Triangle is the guide.
May 2, 20242 min read


5 Ways to Become a Better Listener
It's typical for one person in a couple to be a better listener, which can cause pain and strife. Here are tips that help connection.
Apr 9, 20247 min read


Emotions & the Art of Persuasion
Understanding and working with emotions is key not only for health and personal wellbeing, but for being maximally effective in the...
Mar 8, 20245 min read


Feeling Anxious? You Might Have an Internal Conflict
The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.
Feb 7, 20244 min read

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