5 Things About Emotions I Wish My Parents Had Taught Me
I was anxious as a kid. To avoid my worries, I focused on schoolwork and after-school jobs. At that time, I had no idea my anxiety had...
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 8
- 3 min
For Mothers with Children Who Struggle
Being a mother is the hardest job in the world even when things go smoothly. When you have a child who suffers the hardest job gets harder.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 7
- 6 min
The Danger of Escalating Anger
I was on the subway and I witnessed a needless escalation of anger that ended with somebody being punched in the face. I was shaken and...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 12
- 4 min
3 Reasons Why It’s Scary to Feel Good About Yourself
In the kind of psychotherapy I practice called AEDP, we often focus on feel-good emotions like joy and pride. Deepening the experience of...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 8
- 4 min
Detaching with Love and Openheartedness
My teenagers' dark and surly moods, my husband's anxiety, my mother's rare show of displeasure, and my father's anger and frugality, all...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 7
- 5 min
A Solution for Our Society's Poor Mental Health
My father was a psychiatrist in the 1960s, ‘70s and ‘80s. Like many mental health practitioners of his time, he tended to define people...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 8, 2022
- 4 min
Surviving Painful Holiday Emotions
-Originally published on NAMI.org’s blog There are many “shoulds” about how families and holidays should be. For example, families should...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 8, 2022
- 3 min
3 Tips to Stay More Present in the Present
Resisting the mind’s pull toward future worries or past wounds takes practice.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 9, 2022
- 2 min
Relationships & Emotions: A Podcast Experience
Deep connections grow and thrive not on their own, but with each person's commitment to personal growth and talking through their conflicts.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel and Juli Fraga, PsyD
- Sep 7, 2022
- 7 min
Healing From Trauma Means Dealing With Disgust
This article was originally published on Slate.com on 6/20/22. Irene recently came to therapy because her anxiety had been revving up,...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Aug 7, 2022
- 5 min
My Crooked Path to Becoming a Psychotherapist & Striving to Be My Authentic Self
Changing careers was scary, but hating my job was worse.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 9, 2022
- 8 min
Feel Like a Fraud Sometimes? Here's How to Work With Yourself
Cutting-edge self-help tips to feel more confident when experiencing imposter syndrome or feeling insecure.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 9, 2022
- 4 min
“He’s an Idiot!” Considering the Judgments We All Make
"He's an idiot," my father would snap when someone didn't do something the way he wanted. It didn't bother me then. But now I realize my...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 10, 2022
- 5 min
A New Approach to Diminishing FOMO
A new approach to dealing with FOMO by tending to the underlying core emotions in the body using the Change Triangle as a guide.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel and Joanne Silver Jones
- Mar 7, 2022
- 4 min
The Emotional Toll of Traumatic Brain Injury
The emotional challenges following a traumatic brain injury are many.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 7, 2022
- 3 min
Four Ways to Engage with the Change Triangle Tool for Emotional Health
Most people have never had any emotions education at all. In 2022, this is an astounding fact. As a result of the lack of education in...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 10, 2022
- 4 min
22 Crucial Things to Know About Emotions for Emotional Health
Our dysfunctional society fails to educate us on emotions. Here are a few basics to start you on your way to more knowledge.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 7, 2021
- 3 min
Mourning for the Self & Healing from Trauma
Healing from trauma requires self-compassion and feeling for ourselves. Mourning paves the way to increased vitality and connectedness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 7, 2021
- 3 min
Two Powerful Techniques to Lower Anxiety
Two effective techniques to decrease anxiety based on accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP) and the Change Triangle® tool.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 10, 2021
- 7 min
5 Crucial Qualities to Seek in a Life Partner
Dating tips for finding emotional intimacy and connection
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