Hilary Jacobs Hendel | The Change Triangle

Dating tips for finding emotional intimacy and connection

Going back to school is both exciting and scary. Learning a few techniques to calm anxiety will help.

For most of us the “guilt versus resentment choice” will rear its difficult head. When those times arise, here are some tips that might.

Hilary Jacobs Hendel explains the difference between healthy and toxic shame. The Change Triangle tool guides healing.

Emotions make it hard not to react. Here's a simple mantra for damage control.

(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...

It's hard to hold hope that healing and transformation are possible especially if nothing has helped so far. Here's why I hold hope.

Anxiety and fear are words often used interchangeably. But they are not the same! Distinguishing between anxiety and fear is crucial.

Joy is one of the seven core emotions on the Change Triangle. Joy, like all core emotions, has a particular feeling in the body, although...

Reflections and resources to undo aloneness.

Did you ever have the feeling that you were sad and needed a good cry, but you couldn’t get the tears out? I certainly have.

When someone is depressed, it's worth asking what other emotions they might have buried deep inside that need to be dealt with.

For inner equilibrium and harmony, we have to balance our use and expenditure of energy.

When someone we love dies, sadness is the healthy biological response to our loss. We cannot just ‘get over it’ or ‘suck it up’.

Think depression is only about a flaw in chemistry? Think again.

Speaking supportive words to ourselves will provide relief, much like a parent reassures a distressed child. Want to experiment? Try this!

Assigning fault and blame might feel good in a the moment, but it doesn’t help you or your relationship in the long run. Try this instead.

More than ever people need tools to handle their emotions. We must work hard to NOT take out stress on our loved ones.

Why do some children become sad, withdrawn, insecure, or angry, whereas others become happy, curious, affectionate, and self-confident?

Rachel grew up in a chaotic household. When I met her as a young adult, she didn’t seem to care much about anything.