Hilary Jacobs Hendel | The Change Triangle

Some of us were taught to “tone it down” or not get our hopes up. We have learned to disavow our excitement, a core emotion.

In a system stretched thin and often focused on symptom management, AEDP offers something radically different.

We greatly benefit from understanding which emotions are affecting us and why. By feeling it through and thinking it through, we get the best outcomes. When we work the Change Triangle, we get calmer, more curious, more compassionate, and we gain clarity.

There are many ways to unburden ourselves.

Anger happens to all of us. When we get angry, we must work with it so we don't suppress it. Suppressing anger makes us depressed and/or...

Consider these scripts designed to soften defenses so you can relate more authentically with emotions in mind.

When you make a mistake do you pick yourself up or beat yourself up?

Shame is an excruciating emotion that makes it hard (or impossible) to be seen as hurtful, fallible, or wrong.

Being connected feels good and right. But have you ever asked yourself, "What does connection feels like?"

Anxiety is a signal that we must tend to underlying core emotions. This video explains how. The Change Triangle is the guide.

It's typical for one person in a couple to be a better listener, which can cause pain and strife. Here are tips that help connection.

Understanding and working with emotions is key not only for health and personal wellbeing, but for being maximally effective in the...

The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.

For years I lamented my curvy figure. I wanted to be flat-chested and look like a boy or a model.

Perfectionism gives us the illusion of control in the midst of emotions that feel out of control, especially when we’re young.

When responding to a child, understanding emotions is crucial.

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom . - Aristotle Lillian, a patient of mine, didn’t know who she truly was. She lacked a...

Guilt and jealousy are two very challenging emotions. The approaches I share here have helped me with them immensely.

Ever walk into a room and feel all eyes are looking at you? You imagine people are judging your every flaw. You start to shrink and think...

For many of us, our early experiences with emotions involved us being told to "get over it" in one way or another.