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A Welcome Letter for Parents on Emotions from Hilary and Juli
Read the one-page welcome letter excerpted from "Parents Have Feelings, Too: A Guide to Navigating Your Emotions So You And Your Family Can Thrive."
1 day ago3 min read


"I Hate Myself When I Yell at My Kids" and How Understanding Emotions Helps
We can only meet our children’s feelings when we know how to meet our own.
Sep 73 min read


It’s Valid to Feel, Not to Explode: Why Emotions Aren’t Excuses
Permission to feel our emotions is very different than permission to act on our emotions.
Aug 92 min read


What Every Man Should Know About Emotions (That No One Taught Us)
Culturally, we may picture women as more emotional and men as more stoic. But neuroscience tells a different story. Having and expressing emotions isn’t a “female thing” or a “male thing.”It’s a human thing.
Jul 74 min read


Don’t Forget Excitement: An Overlooked Core Emotion
Some of us were taught to “tone it down” or not get our hopes up. We have learned to disavow our excitement, a core emotion.
Jun 73 min read


The Change Triangle and AEDP in Under-Resourced Communities
In a system stretched thin and often focused on symptom management, AEDP offers something radically different.
May 94 min read


Don't Just Think It Through - Feel It Through. Name Your Emotions!
We greatly benefit from understanding which emotions are affecting us and why. By feeling it through and thinking it through, we get the best outcomes. When we work the Change Triangle, we get calmer, more curious, more compassionate, and we gain clarity.
Apr 163 min read


Unburdening
There are many ways to unburden ourselves.
Mar 123 min read


The Two Kinds of Anger and How to Process Them
Anger happens to all of us. When we get angry, we must work with it so we don't suppress it. Suppressing anger makes us depressed and/or...
Jan 284 min read

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