Hope For Healing
When my patients lose hope, I hold it for them. Although change takes work, my conviction that the brain and mind heal is unwavering.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 15, 2017
- 3 min
Fathers, Sons, & Intimacy
How would a little boy learn that it was good to express intimacy and affection if his own father could not? Answer: A little boy would not.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 17, 2017
- 4 min
Beyond Life’s Disappointments
When our life does not proceed in the direction we imagined, it is time to expand our consciousness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 14, 2017
- 4 min
The Problem With Yelling
“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Aug 15, 2017
- 2 min
Is This a George Costanza Moment?
You know that moment when you feel the jolt of being knocked out of your calm or usual emotional state? Maybe you’re walking down the...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 13, 2017
- 5 min
The Feeling of Not Enough
By educating himself on emotions and how the brain is affected by childhood adversity, Mike learned that everyone struggled.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 15, 2017
- 4 min
Being With Sadness
Being with sadness can be hard for many people. in fact, when I was young, I didn't get sad, just anxious.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 16, 2017
- 3 min
Am I Normal?
I suspected Robert’s sudden question about normalcy had to do with his new relationship. Love renders us vulnerable to rejection. We natural
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 13, 2017
- 5 min
What's in a Moment?
But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 15, 2017
- 1 min
The Change Triangle: A Podcast Experience
For those of you who like podcasts, I'm sharing this interview I did with Laura Reagan on her show, "Therapy Chat.”
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 13, 2017
- 5 min
Why Are People Mean?
Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 15, 2017
- 4 min
Are You Really Sorry?
Apologizing is hard. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of an insincere apology, you know how demoralizing that feels. In stark...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 15, 2016
- 4 min
Start Fantasizing!
“You cannot change the past, but you can change how you feel about the past.”
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 16, 2016
- 3 min
Why Am I Uncomfortable Getting Close To People?
Many of us as children or adolescents shared our feelings with the “wrong” person - someone whose response was to humiliate or reject us.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 17, 2016
- 5 min
How To Say "NO!" When You Feel So Guilty
Saying no is hard! We need support and encouragement to set limits. But the process of learning where your boundaries begin is worth it.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 15, 2016
- 3 min
What Renee Taught Me About Why Some People Harm Themselves
Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Aug 18, 2016
- 2 min
I Still Hate Feeling Feelings!
I am on vacation...well actually I set aside three weeks to focus on the second draft of The Change Triangle book. This makes me feel...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 27, 2016
- 2 min
The World's Most Under-Used Free Resource For Mental Health and Wellness?
There is new evidence that hugs are good for both physical and mental health.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 13, 2016
- 3 min
The Difference Between Sex and Love For Men (And Women)
Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 15, 2016
- 4 min
5 Minutes In A Car That Transformed My Angry Tightness & Made Me a Gentler Person
When I was a little girl, I felt at times alone and not a priority. That feeling of aloneness and not mattering made me very sad.
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