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Feel Like a Fraud Sometimes? Here's How to Work With Yourself
Cutting-edge self-help tips to feel more confident when experiencing imposter syndrome or feeling insecure.
Jun 9, 20228 min read
“He’s an Idiot!” Considering the Judgments We All Make
"He's an idiot," my father would snap when someone didn't do something the way he wanted. It didn't bother me then. But now I realize my...
May 9, 20224 min read
A New Approach to Diminishing FOMO
A new approach to dealing with FOMO by tending to the underlying core emotions in the body using the Change Triangle as a guide.
Apr 10, 20225 min read
The Emotional Toll of Traumatic Brain Injury
The emotional challenges following a traumatic brain injury are many.
Mar 7, 20224 min read
Four Ways to Engage with the Change Triangle Tool for Emotional Health
Most people have never had any emotions education at all. In 2022, this is an astounding fact. As a result of the lack of education in...
Feb 7, 20223 min read
22 Crucial Things to Know About Emotions for Emotional Health
Our dysfunctional society fails to educate us on emotions. Here are a few basics to start you on your way to more knowledge.
Jan 10, 20224 min read
Why Mourning for the Self Is a Necessary Part of Healing Trauma
Healing from trauma requires self-compassion and feeling for ourselves. Mourning paves the way to increased vitality and connectedness.
Dec 7, 20213 min read
Two Powerful Techniques to Lower Anxiety
Two effective techniques to decrease anxiety based on accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP) and the Change Triangle® tool.
Nov 7, 20213 min read
5 Crucial Qualities to Seek in a Life Partner
Dating tips for finding emotional intimacy and connection
Oct 10, 20217 min read
Going Back to School Later in Life
Going back to school is both exciting and scary. Learning a few techniques to calm anxiety will help.
Sep 7, 20214 min read
Pick Your Poison: Guilt or Resentment
For most of us the “guilt versus resentment choice” will rear its difficult head. When those times arise, here are some tips that might.
Aug 8, 20215 min read
5 Important Things to Know About Toxic Shame
Hilary Jacobs Hendel explains the difference between healthy and toxic shame. The Change Triangle tool guides healing.
Jul 5, 20214 min read
A Simple Guide to Damage Control When You're About to "Lose it"
Emotions make it hard not to react. Here's a simple mantra for damage control.
Jun 10, 20215 min read
From Confusion to Clarity
(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...
May 7, 20215 min read
3 Reasons to Hold Hope for Healing Emotional Pain
It's hard to hold hope that healing and transformation are possible especially if nothing has helped so far. Here's why I hold hope.
Apr 8, 20214 min read
The Important Difference Between Anxiety and Fear
Anxiety and fear are words often used interchangeably. But they are not the same! Distinguishing between anxiety and fear is crucial.
Mar 9, 20215 min read
4 Ways to Increase Joy: Putting the Science of Joy into Everyday Practice
Joy is one of the seven core emotions on the Change Triangle . Joy, like all core emotions, has a particular feeling in the body ,...
Jan 8, 20215 min read
Surviving Loneliness: Living in the Grey
Reflections and resources to undo aloneness.
Dec 10, 20206 min read
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