Averting Disappointment on Your Birthday
Every year I was so excited for my birthday. And then came the crash.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Aug 13, 2019
- 4 min
Loss: A Cauldron of Emotions
I lost five members of my family over these past four years and it was devastating.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 14, 2019
- 3 min
Are You Listening?
A selection of great podcast episodes to enhance your wellbeing through an understanding of emotions and how they affect the mind and body.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 14, 2019
- 4 min
What Emotion and Trauma Theory Teach Us About Bullying
Richard, a former patient of mine, used to bully kids when he was in high school. Here's why he did it.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 14, 2019
- 4 min
Why Did I Do That?
How often do we take time to contemplate whether we are acting from an impulsive place?
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 15, 2019
- 5 min
What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 15, 2019
- 4 min
5 Enlightened Ways to Think About Mental Health
We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 15, 2019
- 4 min
5 Ways To Work The Change Triangle as a Beginner
Emotions are powerful forces that affect the mind, brain, and especially the body. They have power to cause great distress.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 15, 2019
- 4 min
To Prevent Misunderstandings, Question Intent
Thinking before we speak is a skill that requires practice over a lifetime. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about caring enough to try.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 17, 2018
- 4 min
Handling the Holidays When Your Parents Stress You Out
We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 15, 2018
- 4 min
Thanksgiving Groundhog Day: A Personal Story
Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 15, 2018
- 4 min
11 Signs You're Out of Touch With Emotions
Most people are uncomfortable with emotions. And that makes sense to me. So many of us have been raised in an emotion-phobic culture.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 16, 2018
- 3 min
Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Aug 14, 2018
- 3 min
Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 5 Challenges to Becoming Aware
Many of us are afraid, uncomfortable, or reluctant to know our internal world. Here are some of the reasons:
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 16, 2018
- 5 min
Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 4 Triggers
To prevail over our challenges and move forward in the way we want, we need awareness and understanding of our triggers.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 14, 2018
- 4 min
Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 3 Having an Experience
We cannot think our way through an emotion. Emotions must be experienced! That is because we have a thinking brain, emotional brain and...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 15, 2018
- 5 min
Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 2 Conducting
Along with the three brains, we also have a Self. The Self is the core "you." The Self is how you were born to be.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 16, 2018
- 5 min
Getting To Know Your Three Brains: Part 1
I no longer find it helpful to think of humans as having just one brain. Instead, I like to think of us as having three brains. Here's why!
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 15, 2018
- 4 min
Why Can’t I Shut Off My Mind?
Beth came to therapy because she could not stop her mind from worrying. She’d think about the same things over and over, getting stuck.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 15, 2018
- 3 min
Top 5 Instant Benefits of "Working the Change Triangle"
The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.
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