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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 19, 2016
- 4 min
What 'Mad Men' and Don Draper Taught Us About Trauma and Shame
Don cannot bear being alone without being drunk. Without alcohol, the emotions and longings from the past get too close to the surface.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 22, 2016
- 3 min
Cultivating Pride and Joy
“Don’t get too big for your britches!” “You’re no better than anyone else!” “Don’t get a swelled head!” Beginning as little children, we...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 25, 2016
- 3 min
My Best Self, My Worst Self, My Aware Self
Recently I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I didn't feel like saying good morning. I didn't feel like working. I didn’t feel like...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 3, 2016
- 3 min
Stop Blaming (yourself)
We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 10, 2016
- 2 min
Why We Hide
"We hide by avoiding things that will change us...We hide by asking for reassurance. We hide by letting someone else speak up and lead."
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 16, 2015
- 3 min
Want to Feel More Authentic? Get to Know Your Defenses!
All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 20, 2015
- 3 min
Befriending Anger
The core emotion of anger is crucial for survival. Without it, we would not know when to protect and defend ourselves.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 27, 2015
- 3 min
The Unattainable Standard for Men
Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 10, 2015
- 2 min
The Best Way to Discover Something New About You!
Slowing down will allow you to notice more about your emotional world. Want to experiment?
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 6, 2015
- 2 min
Taking In The Love: What I Learned This Week From Joan Armatrading
While others might have judged her as boastful, I did not. Yet, she wasn't shy to show her pride and pleasure.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 28, 2015
- 2 min
Teen Parenting Blog Repost: When Being a “Bad Guy” Leads To Good
When is guilt good and when is it unhealthy?
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 12, 2015
- 2 min
Emotions are Physical - Listen to the Music Playing in Your Body
In 2004, I learned that emotions were physical experiences. It was an “Aha!” moment for me. Of course they are!
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 26, 2015
- 2 min
I hate feeling feelings!
I don't know about you, but I hate feeling feelings!
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 30, 2015
- 5 min
It's Not Always Depression, Sometimes It's Shame
How can it be that a seemingly depressed person, one who shows clinical symptoms, doesn’t respond to antidepressants or psychotherapy?
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