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Loss: A Cauldron of Emotions
I lost five members of my family over these past four years and it was devastating.
Aug 13, 20194 min read


Are You Listening?
A selection of great podcast episodes to enhance your wellbeing through an understanding of emotions and how they affect the mind and body.
Jul 14, 20193 min read


What Emotion and Trauma Theory Teach Us About Bullying
Richard, a former patient of mine, used to bully kids when he was in high school. Here's why he did it.
Jun 14, 20194 min read


Why Did I Do That?
How often do we take time to contemplate whether we are acting from an impulsive place?
May 14, 20194 min read


What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
Apr 15, 20195 min read


5 Enlightened Ways to Think About Mental Health
We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness.
Mar 15, 20194 min read


5 Ways To Work The Change Triangle as a Beginner
Emotions are powerful forces that affect the mind, brain, and especially the body. They have power to cause great distress.
Feb 15, 20194 min read


To Prevent Misunderstandings, Question Intent
Thinking before we speak is a skill that requires practice over a lifetime. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about caring enough to try.
Jan 15, 20194 min read


Handling the Holidays When Your Parents Stress You Out
We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.
Dec 17, 20184 min read


Thanksgiving Groundhog Day: A Personal Story
Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving was the main holiday where my sister, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins all came together for a festive meal. It’s what gave me a sense of family deep in my heart. I took it hard when my sister, Amanda, got married over twenty years ago, and agreed to spend future Thanksgivings with her in-laws in Tennessee. Each year from t
Nov 15, 20184 min read


11 Signs You're Out of Touch With Emotions
Most people are uncomfortable with emotions. And that makes sense to me. So many of us have been raised in an emotion-phobic culture.
Oct 15, 20184 min read


Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Sep 16, 20183 min read


Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 5 Challenges to Becoming Aware
Many of us are afraid, uncomfortable, or reluctant to know our internal world. Here are some of the reasons:
Aug 14, 20183 min read


Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 4 Triggers
To prevail over our challenges and move forward in the way we want, we need awareness and understanding of our triggers.
Jul 16, 20185 min read


Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 3 Having an Experience
We cannot think our way through an emotion . Emotions must be experienced! That is because we have a thinking brain, emotional brain and...
Jun 14, 20184 min read


Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 2 Conducting
Along with the three brains, we also have a Self. The Self is the core "you." The Self is how you were born to be.
May 15, 20185 min read


Getting To Know Your Three Brains: Part 1
I no longer find it helpful to think of humans as having just one brain. Instead, I like to think of us as having three brains. Here's why!
Apr 16, 20185 min read


Why Can’t I Shut Off My Mind?
Beth came to therapy because she could not stop her mind from worrying. She’d think about the same things over and over, getting stuck.
Mar 15, 20184 min read

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