A Simple Guide to Damage Control When You're About to "Lose it"
Emotions make it hard not to react. Here's a simple mantra for damage control.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 7, 2021
- 5 min
From Confusion to Clarity
(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 8, 2021
- 4 min
3 Reasons to Hold Hope for Healing Emotional Pain
It's hard to hold hope that healing and transformation are possible especially if nothing has helped so far. Here's why I hold hope.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 9, 2021
- 5 min
The Important Difference Between Anxiety and Fear
Anxiety and fear are words often used interchangeably. But they are not the same! Distinguishing between anxiety and fear is crucial.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 8, 2021
- 5 min
4 Ways to Increase Joy: Putting the Science of Joy into Everyday Practice
Joy is one of the seven core emotions on the Change Triangle. Joy, like all core emotions, has a particular feeling in the body, although...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel and Jean Lannin
- Dec 10, 2020
- 6 min
Surviving Loneliness: Living in the Grey
Reflections and resources to undo aloneness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 12, 2020
- 5 min
How to Release Sadness: Lessons from Experiential Psychotherapy
Did you ever have the feeling that you were sad and needed a good cry, but you couldn’t get the tears out? I certainly have.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 8, 2020
- 6 min
When Buried Anger Leads to Depression & How To Heal
When someone is depressed, it's worth asking what other emotions they might have buried deep inside that need to be dealt with.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 10, 2020
- 5 min
The Key to Inner Balance
For inner equilibrium and harmony, we have to balance our use and expenditure of energy.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Aug 11, 2020
- 3 min
A New Way to Understand & Treat Depression: Part 2 The Story of Phil and His Grief
When someone we love dies, sadness is the healthy biological response to our loss. We cannot just ‘get over it’ or ‘suck it up’.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 11, 2020
- 5 min
A New Way To Understand and Treat Depression and Suicidal Thoughts: Part 1 - The Story of Alex
Think depression is only about a flaw in chemistry? Think again.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 11, 2020
- 4 min
4 Simple Phrases to Halt Anxious Thoughts
Speaking supportive words to ourselves will provide relief, much like a parent reassures a distressed child. Want to experiment? Try this!
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 6, 2020
- 8 min
Rupture & Repair Part 2: Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Adults
Assigning fault and blame might feel good in a the moment, but it doesn’t help you or your relationship in the long run. Try this instead.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 5, 2020
- 5 min
10 Tips to Prevent Fights with Loved Ones
More than ever people need tools to handle their emotions. We must work hard to NOT take out stress on our loved ones.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 9, 2020
- 6 min
Rupture & Repair Part 1:Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Infancy
Why do some children become sad, withdrawn, insecure, or angry, whereas others become happy, curious, affectionate, and self-confident?
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 1, 2020
- 6 min
Healing Chronic Boredom
Rachel grew up in a chaotic household. When I met her as a young adult, she didn’t seem to care much about anything.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 1, 2020
- 7 min
6 Tips to Improve your Emotional Health
Emotion education has the power to transform anxiety and depression, bolster your confidence, and help you feel your best self.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 6, 2019
- 4 min
5 Tips to Build Emotional Resilience When the Holidays Bring Distress
It's not unusual for the holidays to bring up anxiety. But, a little emotion education and a few tips go a long way to getting through.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 14, 2019
- 5 min
Disgust: A Natural Emotional Response to Abuse
Disgust is an emotion that is rarely talked about but is very important for healing from verbal, physical, and sexual abuse.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 14, 2019
- 5 min
7 Ways to Help a Child Deal with Traumatic Stress
Traumatic stress feels awful. The body tenses and succumbs to many other physiological changes leading to digestive problems and headaches,
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