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A New Way to Understand & Treat Depression: Part 2 The Story of Phil and His Grief
When someone we love dies, sadness is the healthy biological response to our loss. We cannot just ‘get over it’ or ‘suck it up’.
Aug 11, 20204 min read


A New Way To Understand and Treat Depression and Suicidal Thoughts: Part 1 - The Story of Alex
Think depression is only about a flaw in chemistry? Think again.
Jul 11, 20205 min read


Rupture & Repair Part 2: Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Adults
Assigning fault and blame might feel good in a the moment, but it doesn’t help you or your relationship in the long run. Try this instead.
May 6, 20208 min read


Healing Chronic Boredom
Rachel grew up in a chaotic household. When I met her as a young adult, she didn’t seem to care much about anything.
Feb 1, 20206 min read


6 Tips to Improve your Emotional Health
Emotion education has the power to transform anxiety and depression, bolster your confidence, and help you feel your best self.
Jan 1, 20208 min read


5 Tips to Build Emotional Resilience When the Holidays Bring Distress
It's not unusual for the holidays to bring up anxiety. But, a little emotion education and a few tips go a long way to getting through.
Dec 6, 20194 min read


Are You Listening?
A selection of great podcast episodes to enhance your wellbeing through an understanding of emotions and how they affect the mind and body.
Jul 14, 20193 min read


What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
Apr 15, 20195 min read


5 Ways To Work The Change Triangle as a Beginner
Emotions are powerful forces that affect the mind, brain, and especially the body. They have power to cause great distress.
Feb 15, 20194 min read


11 Signs You're Out of Touch With Emotions
Most people are uncomfortable with emotions. And that makes sense to me. So many of us have been raised in an emotion-phobic culture.
Oct 15, 20184 min read


Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Sep 16, 20183 min read


Why Can’t I Shut Off My Mind?
Beth came to therapy because she could not stop her mind from worrying. She’d think about the same things over and over, getting stuck.
Mar 15, 20184 min read


The Problem With Yelling
“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.
Sep 14, 20174 min read


The Change Triangle: A Podcast Experience
For those of you who like podcasts, I'm sharing this interview I did with Laura Reagan on her show, "Therapy Chat.”
Mar 15, 20171 min read


Why Are People Mean?
Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I
Feb 13, 20175 min read


Start Fantasizing!
“You cannot change the past, but you can change how you feel about the past.”
Dec 15, 20164 min read


What Renee Taught Me About Why Some People Harm Themselves
Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.
Sep 15, 20163 min read
I Still Hate Feeling Feelings!
I am on vacation...well actually I set aside three weeks to focus on the second draft of The Change Triangle book. This makes me feel...
Aug 18, 20162 min read


The World's Most Under-Used Free Resource For Mental Health and Wellness?
There is new evidence that hugs are good for both physical and mental health.
Jul 27, 20162 min read


The Difference Between Sex and Love For Men (And Women)
Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.
Jul 13, 20163 min read

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