What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 15, 2019
- 4 min
5 Ways To Work The Change Triangle as a Beginner
Emotions are powerful forces that affect the mind, brain, and especially the body. They have power to cause great distress.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 15, 2018
- 4 min
11 Signs You're Out of Touch With Emotions
Most people are uncomfortable with emotions. And that makes sense to me. So many of us have been raised in an emotion-phobic culture.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 16, 2018
- 3 min
Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 15, 2018
- 4 min
Why Can’t I Shut Off My Mind?
Beth came to therapy because she could not stop her mind from worrying. She’d think about the same things over and over, getting stuck.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 14, 2017
- 4 min
The Problem With Yelling
“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 15, 2017
- 1 min
The Change Triangle: A Podcast Experience
For those of you who like podcasts, I'm sharing this interview I did with Laura Reagan on her show, "Therapy Chat.”
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 13, 2017
- 5 min
Why Are People Mean?
Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 15, 2016
- 4 min
Start Fantasizing!
“You cannot change the past, but you can change how you feel about the past.”
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 19, 2016
- 4 min
What 'Mad Men' and Don Draper Taught Us About Trauma and Shame
Don cannot bear being alone without being drunk. Without alcohol, the emotions and longings from the past get too close to the surface.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 3, 2016
- 3 min
Stop Blaming (yourself)
We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 16, 2015
- 3 min
Want to Feel More Authentic? Get to Know Your Defenses!
All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 10, 2015
- 2 min
The Best Way to Discover Something New About You!
Slowing down will allow you to notice more about your emotional world. Want to experiment?
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 12, 2015
- 2 min
Emotions are Physical - Listen to the Music Playing in Your Body
In 2004, I learned that emotions were physical experiences. It was an “Aha!” moment for me. Of course they are!
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