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What Every Man Should Know About Emotions (That No One Taught Us)
Culturally, we may picture women as more emotional and men as more stoic. But neuroscience tells a different story. Having and expressing emotions isn’t a “female thing” or a “male thing.”It’s a human thing.
Jul 7, 20254 min read


Don’t Forget Excitement: An Overlooked Core Emotion
Some of us were taught to “tone it down” or not get our hopes up. We have learned to disavow our excitement, a core emotion.
Jun 7, 20253 min read


The Change Triangle and AEDP in Under-Resourced Communities
In a system stretched thin and often focused on symptom management, AEDP offers something radically different.
May 9, 20254 min read


Don't Just Think It Through - Feel It Through. Name Your Emotions!
We greatly benefit from understanding which emotions are affecting us and why. By feeling it through and thinking it through, we get the best outcomes. When we work the Change Triangle, we get calmer, more curious, more compassionate, and we gain clarity.
Apr 16, 20253 min read


Unburdening
There are many ways to unburden ourselves.
Mar 12, 20253 min read


The Two Kinds of Anger and How to Process Them
Anger happens to all of us. When we get angry, we must work with it so we don't suppress it. Suppressing anger makes us depressed and/or anxious. We also work with anger so we don't act it out, which hurts others and our relationships. In order to work effectively with our anger, we first need to know what kind of anger it is. There are two kinds to consider: Core anger, and; Defensive anger Core anger Core anger is a survival emotion which arises when we perceive an attack
Jan 28, 20254 min read


Scripts to Get Beyond Defensiveness to Relate Authentically with Emotions
Consider these scripts designed to soften defenses so you can relate more authentically with emotions in mind.
Dec 7, 20243 min read


When You Make a Mistake, What Happens Next?
When you make a mistake do you pick yourself up or beat yourself up?
Oct 7, 20242 min read


“It’s me. Hi. I’m the problem. It’s me.” The Agony and the Ecstasy of Accountability
Shame is an excruciating emotion that makes it hard (or impossible) to be seen as hurtful, fallible, or wrong.
Aug 6, 20243 min read


What Does Connection Feel Like?
Being connected feels good and right. But have you ever asked yourself, "What does connection feels like?"
Jun 7, 20244 min read


Emotions Education: A Missing Piece
Anxiety is a signal that we must tend to underlying core emotions. This video explains how. The Change Triangle is the guide.
May 2, 20242 min read


5 Ways to Become a Better Listener
It's typical for one person in a couple to be a better listener, which can cause pain and strife. Here are tips that help connection.
Apr 9, 20247 min read


Emotions & the Art of Persuasion
Understanding and working with emotions is key not only for health and personal wellbeing, but for being maximally effective in the...
Mar 8, 20245 min read


Feeling Anxious? You Might Have an Internal Conflict
The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.
Feb 7, 20244 min read


Recovering From My Body Perfectionism (Part 2)
For years I lamented my curvy figure. I wanted to be flat-chested and look like a boy or a model.
Jan 7, 20246 min read


Loosening the Grip of Perfectionism (Part 1)
Perfectionism gives us the illusion of control in the midst of emotions that feel out of control, especially when we’re young.
Dec 10, 20235 min read


2 Things Not to Say When Your Child Says “I Hate You!”
When responding to a child, understanding emotions is crucial.
Nov 6, 20233 min read


Defining & Finding Your Authentic Self
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom . - Aristotle Lillian, a patient of mine, didn’t know who she truly was. She lacked a...
Oct 7, 20236 min read


Advice on Easing Guilt & Jealousy
Guilt and jealousy are two very challenging emotions. The approaches I share here have helped me with them immensely.
Sep 7, 20233 min read


One Fast, Easy Tip To Combat Self Consciousness & Social Anxiety
Ever walk into a room and feel all eyes are looking at you? You imagine people are judging your every flaw. You start to shrink and think...
Aug 7, 20234 min read

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