Hilary Jacobs Hendel | The Change Triangle

We greatly benefit from understanding which emotions are affecting us and why. By feeling it through and thinking it through, we get the best outcomes. When we work the Change Triangle, we get calmer, more curious, more compassionate, and we gain clarity.

When you make a mistake do you pick yourself up or beat yourself up?

Perfectionism gives us the illusion of control in the midst of emotions that feel out of control, especially when we’re young.

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom . - Aristotle Lillian, a patient of mine, didn’t know who she truly was. She lacked a...

Ever walk into a room and feel all eyes are looking at you? You imagine people are judging your every flaw. You start to shrink and think...

For many of us, our early experiences with emotions involved us being told to "get over it" in one way or another.

Being a mother is the hardest job in the world even when things go smoothly. When you have a child who suffers the hardest job gets harder.

I was on the subway and I witnessed a needless escalation of anger that ended with somebody being punched in the face. I was shaken and...

In the kind of psychotherapy I practice called AEDP, we often focus on feel-good emotions like joy and pride. Deepening the experience of...

My teenagers' dark and surly moods, my husband's anxiety, my mother's rare show of displeasure, and my father's anger and frugality, all...

Resisting the mind’s pull toward future worries or past wounds takes practice.

This article was originally published on Slate.com on 6/20/22. Irene recently came to therapy because her anxiety had been revving up,...

Changing careers was scary, but hating my job was worse.

"He's an idiot," my father would snap when someone didn't do something the way he wanted. It didn't bother me then. But now I realize my...

The emotional challenges following a traumatic brain injury are many.

Most people have never had any emotions education at all. In 2022, this is an astounding fact. As a result of the lack of education in...

Our dysfunctional society fails to educate us on emotions. Here are a few basics to start you on your way to more knowledge.

Healing from trauma requires self-compassion and feeling for ourselves. Mourning paves the way to increased vitality and connectedness.

Two effective techniques to decrease anxiety based on accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP) and the Change Triangle® tool.

Dating tips for finding emotional intimacy and connection