Hilary Jacobs Hendel | The Change Triangle
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Empowering you to navigate the tough emotions that parenting brings.
Parents Have Feelings, Too is a practical guide that teaches parents how to understand and process their emotions – and how to teach this valuable, life-changing skill of emotional intelligence to the next generation. It’s a book for parents with kids of all ages. Think of it as your “emotions playbook” for family wellness.
Available September 23, 2025.
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This practical guide teaches parents how to understand and process their emotions–and how to teach this valuable, life changing skill to the next generation.
Parents are stressed. It’s not uncommon for modern-day pressures and expectations to compromise a parent’s emotional well-being, causing them to lose control of their emotions and lash out.
But when parents let their anger and frustration lead to outbursts, the fallout can have lasting effects on their children, leaving them anxious, insecure, and hurt by the words and actions of their overwhelmed caregivers.
Parents desperately need real, actionable, long-lasting advice that helps them process their emotions in a healthy and productive way. In Parents Have Feelings, Too, psychotherapists Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW and Dr. Juli Fraga provide the tools parents need to understand and effectively work with their own potent feelings, breaking the chain of intergenerational trauma, and passing along this knowledge to their children to create a generation of emotionally mature people.
Parents Have Feelings, Too includes:
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Practical strategies to help parents process their feelings
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Stories and examples
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Strategies that build confidence and emotional know-how in their children.
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Strategies that break the intergenerational transfer of trauma so parents can raise emotionally healthier people who can thrive amidst the many challenges of being human.
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Expert insights and insight-building exercises that support parents on their emotional journey
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Shows parents how to reach the open-hearted state of the authentic self
Parents have feelings. And when they understand what they are, where they’re coming from, and how to process them, they become equipped to not only enhance their parenting skills but also help their children understand and process their own emotions.
Early reviews
"Parents Have Feelings, Too explores the emotional lives of parents–especially the often-overlooked experiences of fathers. Hendel and Fraga offer practical, judgment-free steps to help caregivers move through guilt and shame, while making sense of the complex emotions that come with raising children."
—Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space
"A rare gem: a compassionate, science-based guide to navigating the emotional journey of parenting… This book offers more than tools; it offers the possibility of transformation."
– Diana Fosha, PhD. Developer of AEDP, editor of Undoing Aloneness: the Transformation of Suffering into Flourishing: AEDP 2.0
"I've long believed that the secret to happiness -- in parenting and life -- is learning how to be unhappy. When we can recognize, tolerate, and recover from our unpleasant emotions, we can effectively and empathically respond to our children instead of freaking out or falling apart. Parents Have Feelings, Too teaches readers exactly how to do this in a compassionate, accessible, and non-judgmental way. If, like so many of us, you struggle to feel your feelings without being overwhelmed by them, this is the book for you. It will teach you the skills and strategies that will change your life and your parenting for the better, forever."
- Carla Naumburg, PhD, LICSW, author of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids
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