It's Not Always Depression

Listen to the Body. Discover Core Emotions.

Connect to Your Authentic Self.

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2018 Best Book Award Winner 
Dear Reader,
Welcome! My goal is to educate people on the benefits of understanding what emotions really are and how they affect our mind, brain and body--which they do!
We live in a culture that values thoughts and logic over emotions. But science has proven it is not healthy to tune out our emotions and we do not have to choose between our thoughts and our emotions. We can become aware of both and understand how thoughts and emotions work together to help us feel better or feel worse depending on how we work with them.
Emotions are very unique in their potential to cause traumatic stress and everyday distress. But what most people do not know, because we were never taught this in school, is that emotions are the doorway to healing our anxieties, depression, low self-esteem, and other mental health symptoms. Working with our emotions in very specific ways, which is what the Change Triangle is all about, helps us manage daily life with more ease and helps us meet the challenges of our relationships.
Please feel free to use this site as a resource. My articles, blog, brief explanation of The Change Triangle, videos, and the book, It's Not Always Depression, are resources to help you learn what are emotions and how to work with them to feel better. In all my writing, I try to use simple, jargon-free language with stories and little "experiments" to help bring the concepts to life. Thank you for visiting.
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Click here to order: It's Not Always Depression.

To read my New York Times opinion piece, "It's Not Always Depression, Sometimes It's Shame," click here.

To read my New York Times opinion piece, "The Healing Power of Hugs" click here.

To read my OpEd in NBC Think called, "COVID-19 stress is making America increasingly irritable. But what is all this rage hiding?" click here.

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Listen to Esther Perel and me discuss how a basic education in emotions helps our relationships thrive and grow deeper. Click here to watch.


Listen to an interview that will help you understand and work with your emotions, and teach you a path to vitality, resilience and authentic living. From on the award-winning podcast, "The One You Feed,"  Click here.

To read my opinion piece, "Ignoring Your Emotions Is Bad for Your Health. Here's What to Do About It" click here.

To read my opinion piece, "What toxic stress does to a child’s brain — and how to heal it" click here.

To read my piece on shame and perfectionism called, "How Rewiring My Brain Saved My Relationship" click here.

To read about my experience as Mental Health Consultant for Matt Weiner's Emmy Award winning series on AMC, Mad Men, click here.

To listen to a recent KUCI public radio interview on the Change Triangle  click here.

I was at the iconic Strand Bookstore last Wednesday (2/7/18) to kick off the launch of It's Not Always Depression, my new book sharing the goldmine of emotion education I learned in my trauma and emotion-centered psychotherapy training so it can help all people who want to feel better. Watch it here on YouTube. 

Karen Hunter and I discussed "wallowing in grief" on the Karen Hunter Show on SiriusXM Urban View, click here.

Karen Hunter and I talked about the complexities of depression on the Karen Hunter Show on SiriusXM Urban View, click here.

Click here to listen to a podcast on how I work core emotions and The Change Triangle with my patients and in daily life. Check it out!

Who Am I? 


I am someone with a passion for helping people become their best selves. Permission to be your true self, flaws and all, and relate to others from a center of authenticity just feels better and leads to all sorts of good things: connection, compassion, calm, creativity, courage and confidence.


I help people understand how emotions work so they can develop the courage to get acquainted or re-acquainted with their feelings. Experiencing core emotions like anger, sadness, fear, joy and excitement is the key to recovering a more vital and engaged self.


I grew up in New York City in a culture of "mind over matter." I thought I had total control over what I felt. It turns out I was wrong and I learned first hand by becoming depressed when I ignored my stress for too long. Click here to read more...

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