Click here to order: It's Not Always Depression.

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To read my OpEd in NBC Think called, "COVID-19 stress is making America increasingly irritable. But what is all this rage hiding?" click here.

It’s so hard to feel feelings—especially when you have all of them all at once, and it’s never a convenient time to process them. For the past year, we’ve all been stewing with anxiety, stress, anger, loneliness, grief, and fear. Ignoring our hard feelings might seem like the easiest way to cope and get relief—but it’s not the only option available to us. Psychoanalyst and therapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel, reminds us that when we disconnect from our harder emotions, we disconnect from the life-giving ones too, like joy—and don’t we all need more of that right now? Instead of shutting down, Hilary shows us how we can walk ourselves toward reconnection and healing, which gives us real resilience—not the kind that we *think* we have by stuffing down our feelings. Click here to listen.

"Mark Groves from Create the Love and the Mark Groves Podcast writes, “Every single human has surely suffered with feeling invalidated for their emotions. Many of us have never really learned the true anatomy of our emotions. Hilary walks us through the model she uses that allows people to experience — often for the first time in their lives — how to fully feel a feeling, and the freedom that this experience offers us.” Click here to listen.

Listen to Esther Perel and me discuss how a basic education in emotions helps our relationships thrive and grow deeper. Click here to watch.

Listen to an interview that will help you understand and work with your emotions, and teach you a path to vitality, resilience and authentic living. From on the award-winning podcast, "The One You Feed,"  Click here.

To read my Time.com opinion piece, "Ignoring Your Emotions Is Bad for Your Health. Here's What to Do About It" click here.

To read my Salon.com opinion piece, "What toxic stress does to a child’s brain — and how to heal it" click here.

To check out the Q & A on Learning to Identify—and Release—Your Core Emotions called, click here.

To read my piece on shame and perfectionism called, "How Rewiring My Brain Saved My Relationship" click here.

"There can be no positive change without first understanding each other to find common ground." To read my FOX news piece on using positive communication to find common ground, click here.

To read about my experience as Mental Health Consultant for Matt Weiner's Emmy Award winning series on AMC, Mad Men, click here.

I was at the iconic Strand Bookstore to kick off the launch of It's Not Always Depression, my new book sharing the goldmine of emotion education I learned in my trauma and emotion-centered psychotherapy training so it can help all people who want to feel better. Watch it here on YouTube. 

Karen Hunter and I discussed "wallowing in grief" on the Karen Hunter Show on SiriusXM Urban View, click here.

Karen Hunter and I talked about the complexities of depression on the Karen Hunter Show on SiriusXM Urban View, click here.

Click here to listen to a podcast on how I work core emotions and The Change Triangle with my patients and in daily life. Check it out!

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Who Am I? 

I am someone with a passion for helping people become their best selves. Permission to be your true self, flaws and all, and relate to others from a center of authenticity just feels better and leads to all sorts of good things: connection, compassion, calm, creativity, courage and confidence.

I help people understand how emotions work so they can develop the courage to get acquainted or re-acquainted with their feelings. Experiencing core emotions like anger, sadness, fear, joy and excitement is the key to recovering a more vital and engaged self.

I grew up in New York City in a culture of "mind over matter." I thought I had total control over what I felt. It turns out I was wrong and I learned first hand by becoming depressed when I ignored my stress for too long. Click here to read more...