What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 15, 2019
- 4 min
5 Enlightened Ways to Think About Mental Health
We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 15, 2018
- 4 min
Thanksgiving Groundhog Day: A Personal Story
Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 16, 2018
- 3 min
Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 16, 2018
- 5 min
Getting To Know Your Three Brains: Part 1
I no longer find it helpful to think of humans as having just one brain. Instead, I like to think of us as having three brains. Here's why!
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 15, 2018
- 3 min
Top 5 Instant Benefits of "Working the Change Triangle"
The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 13, 2017
- 5 min
The Feeling of Not Enough
By educating himself on emotions and how the brain is affected by childhood adversity, Mike learned that everyone struggled.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 16, 2017
- 3 min
Am I Normal?
I suspected Robert’s sudden question about normalcy had to do with his new relationship. Love renders us vulnerable to rejection. We natural
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 13, 2017
- 5 min
What's in a Moment?
But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 15, 2017
- 1 min
The Change Triangle: A Podcast Experience
For those of you who like podcasts, I'm sharing this interview I did with Laura Reagan on her show, "Therapy Chat.”
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 13, 2017
- 5 min
Why Are People Mean?
Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 16, 2016
- 3 min
Why Am I Uncomfortable Getting Close To People?
Many of us as children or adolescents shared our feelings with the “wrong” person - someone whose response was to humiliate or reject us.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 15, 2016
- 3 min
What Renee Taught Me About Why Some People Harm Themselves
Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 27, 2016
- 2 min
The World's Most Under-Used Free Resource For Mental Health and Wellness?
There is new evidence that hugs are good for both physical and mental health.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 13, 2016
- 3 min
The Difference Between Sex and Love For Men (And Women)
Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 15, 2016
- 4 min
5 Minutes In A Car That Transformed My Angry Tightness & Made Me a Gentler Person
When I was a little girl, I felt at times alone and not a priority. That feeling of aloneness and not mattering made me very sad.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 25, 2016
- 3 min
My Best Self, My Worst Self, My Aware Self
Recently I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I didn't feel like saying good morning. I didn't feel like working. I didn’t feel like...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 3, 2016
- 3 min
Stop Blaming (yourself)
We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 27, 2015
- 3 min
The Unattainable Standard for Men
Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 28, 2015
- 2 min
Teen Parenting Blog Repost: When Being a “Bad Guy” Leads To Good
When is guilt good and when is it unhealthy?
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