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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 15, 2018
- 4 min
Thanksgiving Groundhog Day: A Personal Story
Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving was the main holiday where my sister, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins all came together for a festive meal. It’s what gave me a sense of family deep in my heart. I took it hard when my sister, Amanda, got married over twenty years ago, and agreed to spend future Thanksgivings with her in-laws in Tennessee. Each year from th

Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 16, 2018
- 3 min
Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily had asked her boyfriend to buy her an anxiety cube. My ears perked up when I heard the word “anxiety” so I asked her if she suffered with a lot of anxiety. She smiled sheepishly nodding yes. I told her I was a psychotherapist who teaches people how to ease anxiety and asked if she wanted me to share a bit of education that might help. She and the

Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 25, 2016
- 3 min
My Best Self, My Worst Self, My Aware Self
Recently I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I didn't feel like saying good morning. I didn't feel like working. I didn’t feel like doing anything. "Sometimes it's just a bad day," I said to myself, trying to be compassionate. Compassion was beyond what my Worst Self could manage. "Just be happy I'm getting in the shower," my Worst Self snapped back. "You know what you can do with your compassion?" I don’t intend to be mean by calling this part of me my “Worst Self.” She’
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