Why You Just Can't “Get Over It”
For many of us, our early experiences with emotions involved us being told to "get over it" in one way or another.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Aug 8, 2021
- 5 min
Pick Your Poison: Guilt or Resentment
For most of us the “guilt versus resentment choice” will rear its difficult head. When those times arise, here are some tips that might.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 7, 2021
- 5 min
From Confusion to Clarity
(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 8, 2021
- 5 min
4 Ways to Increase Joy: Putting the Science of Joy into Everyday Practice
Joy is one of the seven core emotions on the Change Triangle. Joy, like all core emotions, has a particular feeling in the body, although...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 12, 2020
- 5 min
How to Release Sadness: Lessons from Experiential Psychotherapy
Did you ever have the feeling that you were sad and needed a good cry, but you couldn’t get the tears out? I certainly have.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 6, 2020
- 8 min
Rupture & Repair Part 2: Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Adults
Assigning fault and blame might feel good in a the moment, but it doesn’t help you or your relationship in the long run. Try this instead.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 14, 2019
- 5 min
7 Ways to Help a Child Deal with Traumatic Stress
Traumatic stress feels awful. The body tenses and succumbs to many other physiological changes leading to digestive problems and headaches,
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 15, 2019
- 5 min
What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 15, 2019
- 4 min
5 Ways To Work The Change Triangle as a Beginner
Emotions are powerful forces that affect the mind, brain, and especially the body. They have power to cause great distress.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 14, 2017
- 4 min
The Problem With Yelling
“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 15, 2016
- 4 min
Start Fantasizing!
“You cannot change the past, but you can change how you feel about the past.”
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 10, 2015
- 2 min
The Best Way to Discover Something New About You!
Slowing down will allow you to notice more about your emotional world. Want to experiment?
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 6, 2015
- 2 min
Taking In The Love: What I Learned From Joan Armatrading
While others might have judged her as boastful, I did not. Yet, she wasn't shy to show her pride and pleasure.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 12, 2015
- 2 min
Emotions are Physical - Listen to the Music Playing in Your Body
In 2004, I learned that emotions were physical experiences. It was an “Aha!” moment for me. Of course they are!
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