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Why You Just Can't “Get Over It”
For many of us, our early experiences with emotions involved us being told to "get over it" in one way or another.
Jul 12, 20232 min read


5 Things About Emotions I Wish My Parents Had Taught Me
I was anxious as a kid. To avoid my worries, I focused on schoolwork and after-school jobs. At that time, I had no idea my anxiety had...
Jun 4, 20233 min read


For Mothers with Children Who Struggle
Being a mother is the hardest job in the world even when things go smoothly. When you have a child who suffers the hardest job gets harder.
May 8, 20233 min read


Basic Steps to Get a Grip On Angry Impulses
I was on the subway and I witnessed a needless escalation of anger that ended with somebody being punched in the face. I was shaken and...
Apr 7, 20236 min read


3 Reasons Why It’s Scary to Feel Good About Yourself
In the kind of psychotherapy I practice called AEDP, we often focus on feel-good emotions like joy and pride. Deepening the experience...
Mar 12, 20234 min read


Detaching with Love and Openheartedness
My teenagers' dark and surly moods, my husband's anxiety, my mother's rare show of displeasure, and my father's anger and frugality, all...
Feb 8, 20234 min read


A Solution for Our Society's Poor Mental Health
My father was a psychiatrist in the 1960s, ‘70s and ‘80s. Like many mental health practitioners of his time, he tended to define people...
Jan 7, 20235 min read


Surviving Painful Holiday Emotions
-Originally published on NAMI.org’s blog There are many “shoulds” about how families and holidays should be. For example, families should love each other, families should get along, and the holidays should be fun. Reality, however, is more messy and complicated. The facts are that many people do not have happy families, happy family memories or happy holidays. Holidays and family can easily trigger us into states of despair, anxiety, and a feeling of “not enough.” Perhaps yo
Dec 8, 20224 min read


3 Tips to Stay More Present in the Present
Resisting the mind’s pull toward future worries or past wounds takes practice.
Nov 8, 20223 min read


Relationships & Emotions: A Podcast Experience
Deep connections grow and thrive not on their own, but with each person's commitment to personal growth and talking through their conflicts.
Oct 9, 20222 min read


Healing From Trauma Means Dealing With Disgust
This article was originally published on Slate.com on 6/20/22. Irene recently came to therapy because her anxiety had been revving up,...
Sep 7, 20227 min read


My Crooked Path to Becoming a Psychotherapist & Striving to Be My Authentic Self
Changing careers was scary, but hating my job was worse.
Aug 7, 20225 min read


Feel Like a Fraud Sometimes? Here's How to Work With Yourself
Cutting-edge self-help tips to feel more confident when experiencing imposter syndrome or feeling insecure.
Jun 9, 20228 min read


“He’s an Idiot!” Considering the Judgments We All Make
"He's an idiot," my father would snap when someone didn't do something the way he wanted. It didn't bother me then. But now I realize my...
May 9, 20224 min read


A New Approach to Diminishing FOMO
A new approach to dealing with FOMO by tending to the underlying core emotions in the body using the Change Triangle as a guide.
Apr 10, 20225 min read


The Emotional Toll of Traumatic Brain Injury
The emotional challenges following a traumatic brain injury are many.
Mar 7, 20224 min read


Four Ways to Engage with the Change Triangle Tool for Emotional Health
Most people have never had any emotions education at all. In 2022, this is an astounding fact. As a result of the lack of education in...
Feb 7, 20223 min read


22 Crucial Things to Know About Emotions for Emotional Health
Our dysfunctional society fails to educate us on emotions. Here are a few basics to start you on your way to more knowledge.
Jan 10, 20224 min read


Why Mourning for the Self Is a Necessary Part of Healing Trauma
Healing from trauma requires self-compassion and feeling for ourselves. Mourning paves the way to increased vitality and connectedness.
Dec 7, 20213 min read


Two Powerful Techniques to Lower Anxiety
Two effective techniques to decrease anxiety based on accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP) and the Change Triangle® tool.
Nov 7, 20213 min read

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