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Don't Just Think It Through - Feel It Through. Name Your Emotions!
We greatly benefit from understanding which emotions are affecting us and why. By feeling it through and thinking it through, we get the best outcomes. When we work the Change Triangle, we get calmer, more curious, more compassionate, and we gain clarity.
Apr 16, 20253 min read


“It’s me. Hi. I’m the problem. It’s me.” The Agony and the Ecstasy of Accountability
Shame is an excruciating emotion that makes it hard (or impossible) to be seen as hurtful, fallible, or wrong.
Aug 6, 20243 min read


One Fast, Easy Tip To Combat Self Consciousness & Social Anxiety
Ever walk into a room and feel all eyes are looking at you? You imagine people are judging your every flaw. You start to shrink and think...
Aug 7, 20234 min read


3 Reasons Why It’s Scary to Feel Good About Yourself
In the kind of psychotherapy I practice called AEDP, we often focus on feel-good emotions like joy and pride. Deepening the experience...
Mar 12, 20234 min read


My Crooked Path to Becoming a Psychotherapist & Striving to Be My Authentic Self
Changing careers was scary, but hating my job was worse.
Aug 7, 20225 min read


Feel Like a Fraud Sometimes? Here's How to Work With Yourself
Cutting-edge self-help tips to feel more confident when experiencing imposter syndrome or feeling insecure.
Jun 9, 20228 min read


Healing Chronic Boredom
Rachel grew up in a chaotic household. When I met her as a young adult, she didn’t seem to care much about anything.
Feb 1, 20206 min read


Averting Disappointment on Your Birthday
Every year I was so excited for my birthday. And then came the crash.
Sep 12, 20193 min read

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