Many people assume that families should get along, and enjoy the holidays. But for a surprising number of us, that’s not reality.

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom . - Aristotle Lillian, a patient of mine, didn’t know who she truly was. She lacked a sense of self. At any given moment of the day, she struggled to know what she felt, what she needed, what she wanted, and what she desired. Equally important, she struggled to know her limits and boundaries and what she did NOT want or like. “I feel like a shell,” she said early in our work, “or sometimes like a willow tree. I feel blown around

Saying no is hard! We need support and encouragement to set limits. But the process of learning where your boundaries begin is worth it.