Hilary Jacobs Hendel | The Change Triangle

We greatly benefit from understanding which emotions are affecting us and why. By feeling it through and thinking it through, we get the best outcomes. When we work the Change Triangle, we get calmer, more curious, more compassionate, and we gain clarity.

When you make a mistake do you pick yourself up or beat yourself up?

Being connected feels good and right. But have you ever asked yourself, "What does connection feels like?"

Perfectionism gives us the illusion of control in the midst of emotions that feel out of control, especially when we’re young.

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom . - Aristotle Lillian, a patient of mine, didn’t know who she truly was. She lacked a...

For many of us, our early experiences with emotions involved us being told to "get over it" in one way or another.

My teenagers' dark and surly moods, my husband's anxiety, my mother's rare show of displeasure, and my father's anger and frugality, all...

Resisting the mind’s pull toward future worries or past wounds takes practice.

"He's an idiot," my father would snap when someone didn't do something the way he wanted. It didn't bother me then. But now I realize my...

Two effective techniques to decrease anxiety based on accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP) and the Change Triangle® tool.

Dating tips for finding emotional intimacy and connection

(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...

For inner equilibrium and harmony, we have to balance our use and expenditure of energy.

Why do some children become sad, withdrawn, insecure, or angry, whereas others become happy, curious, affectionate, and self-confident?

It's not unusual for the holidays to bring up anxiety. But, a little emotion education and a few tips go a long way to getting through.

Many of us are afraid, uncomfortable, or reluctant to know our internal world. Here are some of the reasons:

But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.

Many of us as children or adolescents shared our feelings with the “wrong” person - someone whose response was to humiliate or reject us.

Slowing down will allow you to notice more about your emotional world. Want to experiment?