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What Do You Want Me to Do? A Tip for Relationships
Feeling like a nagging wife or partner? Here’s a tip to change that dynamic.
Nov 10, 20252 min read


It’s Valid to Feel, Not to Explode: Why Emotions Aren’t Excuses
Permission to feel our emotions is very different than permission to act on our emotions.
Aug 9, 20252 min read


Why You Just Can't “Get Over It”
For many of us, our early experiences with emotions involved us being told to "get over it" in one way or another.
Jul 12, 20232 min read


Detaching with Love and Openheartedness
My teenagers' dark and surly moods, my husband's anxiety, my mother's rare show of displeasure, and my father's anger and frugality, all...
Feb 8, 20234 min read


3 Tips to Stay More Present in the Present
Resisting the mind’s pull toward future worries or past wounds takes practice.
Nov 8, 20223 min read


“He’s an Idiot!” Considering the Judgments We All Make
"He's an idiot," my father would snap when someone didn't do something the way he wanted. It didn't bother me then. But now I realize my...
May 9, 20224 min read


Two Powerful Techniques to Lower Anxiety
Two effective techniques to decrease anxiety based on accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP) and the Change Triangle® tool.
Nov 7, 20213 min read


5 Crucial Qualities to Seek in a Life Partner
Dating tips for finding emotional intimacy and connection
Oct 10, 20217 min read


From Confusion to Clarity
(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...
May 7, 20215 min read


The Key to Inner Balance
For inner equilibrium and harmony, we have to balance our use and expenditure of energy.
Sep 10, 20205 min read


Rupture & Repair Part 1:Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Infancy
Why do some children become sad, withdrawn, insecure, or angry, whereas others become happy, curious, affectionate, and self-confident?
Mar 9, 20207 min read


What's in a Moment?
But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.
Apr 13, 20175 min read


Why Am I Uncomfortable Getting Close To People?
Many of us as children or adolescents shared our feelings with the “wrong” person - someone whose response was to humiliate or reject us.
Nov 16, 20163 min read


The Best Way to Discover Something New About You!
Slowing down will allow you to notice more about your emotional world. Want to experiment?
Oct 10, 20152 min read

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