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What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
Apr 15, 20195 min read


5 Enlightened Ways to Think About Mental Health
We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness.
Mar 15, 20194 min read


Handling the Holidays When Your Parents Stress You Out
We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.
Dec 17, 20184 min read


Thanksgiving Groundhog Day: A Personal Story
Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving...
Nov 15, 20184 min read


Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Sep 16, 20183 min read


Getting To Know Your Three Brains: Part 1
I no longer find it helpful to think of humans as having just one brain. Instead, I like to think of us as having three brains. Here's why!
Apr 16, 20185 min read


Top 5 Instant Benefits of "Working the Change Triangle"
The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.
Feb 15, 20183 min read


The Problem With Yelling
“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.
Sep 14, 20174 min read


Am I Normal?
I suspected Robert’s sudden question about normalcy had to do with his new relationship. Love renders us vulnerable to rejection. We natural
May 16, 20173 min read


What's in a Moment?
But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.
Apr 13, 20175 min read


Start Fantasizing!
“You cannot change the past, but you can change how you feel about the past.”
Dec 15, 20164 min read


Why Am I Uncomfortable Getting Close To People?
Many of us as children or adolescents shared our feelings with the “wrong” person - someone whose response was to humiliate or reject us.
Nov 16, 20163 min read


The Difference Between Sex and Love For Men (And Women)
Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.
Jul 13, 20163 min read


Want to Feel More Authentic? Get to Know Your Defenses!
All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.
Dec 16, 20153 min read


The Unattainable Standard for Men
Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.
Oct 27, 20153 min read

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