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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
May 7, 20215 min read
From Confusion to Clarity
(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 8, 20214 min read
3 Reasons to Hold Hope for Healing Emotional Pain
It's hard to hold hope that healing and transformation are possible especially if nothing has helped so far. Here's why I hold hope.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Mar 9, 20215 min read
The Important Difference Between Anxiety and Fear
Anxiety and fear are words often used interchangeably. But they are not the same! Distinguishing between anxiety and fear is crucial.

Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jan 8, 20215 min read
4 Ways to Increase Joy: Putting the Science of Joy into Everyday Practice
Joy is one of the seven core emotions on the Change Triangle. Joy, like all core emotions, has a particular feeling in the body, although...


Hilary Jacobs Hendel and Jean Lannin
Dec 10, 20206 min read
Surviving Loneliness: Living in the Grey
Reflections and resources to undo aloneness.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 12, 20205 min read
How to Release Sadness: Lessons from Experiential Psychotherapy
Did you ever have the feeling that you were sad and needed a good cry, but you couldn’t get the tears out? I certainly have.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 8, 20206 min read
When Buried Anger Leads to Depression & How To Heal
When someone is depressed, it's worth asking what other emotions they might have buried deep inside that need to be dealt with.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 10, 20205 min read
The Key to Inner Balance
For inner equilibrium and harmony, we have to balance our use and expenditure of energy.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Aug 11, 20203 min read
A New Way to Understand & Treat Depression: Part 2 The Story of Phil and His Grief
When someone we love dies, sadness is the healthy biological response to our loss. We cannot just ‘get over it’ or ‘suck it up’.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jun 11, 20204 min read
4 Simple Phrases to Halt Anxious Thoughts
Speaking supportive words to ourselves will provide relief, much like a parent reassures a distressed child. Want to experiment? Try this!


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
May 6, 20208 min read
Rupture & Repair Part 2: Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Adults
Assigning fault and blame might feel good in a the moment, but it doesn’t help you or your relationship in the long run. Try this instead.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 5, 20205 min read
10 Tips to Prevent Fights with Loved Ones
More than ever people need tools to handle their emotions. We must work hard to NOT take out stress on our loved ones.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 1, 20206 min read
Healing Chronic Boredom
Rachel grew up in a chaotic household. When I met her as a young adult, she didn’t seem to care much about anything.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jan 1, 20207 min read
6 Tips to Improve your Emotional Health
Emotion education has the power to transform anxiety and depression, bolster your confidence, and help you feel your best self.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 6, 20194 min read
5 Tips to Build Emotional Resilience When the Holidays Bring Distress
It's not unusual for the holidays to bring up anxiety. But, a little emotion education and a few tips go a long way to getting through.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 14, 20195 min read
7 Ways to Help a Child Deal with Traumatic Stress
Traumatic stress feels awful. The body tenses and succumbs to many other physiological changes leading to digestive problems and headaches,


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 15, 20195 min read
What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.

Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 15, 20194 min read
5 Ways To Work The Change Triangle as a Beginner
Emotions are powerful forces that affect the mind, brain, and especially the body. They have power to cause great distress.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Aug 14, 20183 min read
Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 5 Challenges to Becoming Aware
Many of us are afraid, uncomfortable, or reluctant to know our internal world. Here are some of the reasons:


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 14, 20174 min read
The Problem With Yelling
“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.
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