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Pick Your Poison: Guilt or Resentment
For most of us the “guilt versus resentment choice” will rear its difficult head. When those times arise, here are some tips that might.
Aug 8, 20215 min read


From Confusion to Clarity
(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...
May 7, 20215 min read


3 Reasons to Hold Hope for Healing Emotional Pain
It's hard to hold hope that healing and transformation are possible especially if nothing has helped so far. Here's why I hold hope.
Apr 8, 20214 min read


The Important Difference Between Anxiety and Fear
Anxiety and fear are words often used interchangeably. But they are not the same! Distinguishing between anxiety and fear is crucial.
Mar 9, 20215 min read


4 Ways to Increase Joy: Putting the Science of Joy into Everyday Practice
Joy is one of the seven core emotions on the Change Triangle . Joy, like all core emotions, has a particular feeling in the body ,...
Jan 8, 20215 min read


Surviving Loneliness: Living in the Grey
Reflections and resources to undo aloneness.
Dec 10, 20206 min read


How to Release Sadness: Lessons from Experiential Psychotherapy
Did you ever have the feeling that you were sad and needed a good cry, but you couldn’t get the tears out? I certainly have.
Nov 12, 20205 min read
When Buried Anger Leads to Depression & How To Heal
When someone is depressed, it's worth asking what other emotions they might have buried deep inside that need to be dealt with.
Oct 8, 20207 min read


The Key to Inner Balance
For inner equilibrium and harmony, we have to balance our use and expenditure of energy.
Sep 10, 20205 min read


A New Way to Understand & Treat Depression: Part 2 The Story of Phil and His Grief
When someone we love dies, sadness is the healthy biological response to our loss. We cannot just ‘get over it’ or ‘suck it up’.
Aug 11, 20204 min read


4 Simple Phrases to Halt Anxious Thoughts
Speaking supportive words to ourselves will provide relief, much like a parent reassures a distressed child. Want to experiment? Try this!
Jun 11, 20204 min read


Rupture & Repair Part 2: Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Adults
Assigning fault and blame might feel good in a the moment, but it doesn’t help you or your relationship in the long run. Try this instead.
May 6, 20208 min read


10 Tips to Prevent Fights with Loved Ones
More than ever people need tools to handle their emotions. We must work hard to NOT take out stress on our loved ones.
Apr 5, 20205 min read


Am I Normal?
I suspected Robert’s sudden question about normalcy had to do with his new relationship. Love renders us vulnerable to rejection. We natural
May 16, 20173 min read
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