Loosening the Grip of Perfectionism (Part 1)
Perfectionism gives us the illusion of control in the midst of emotions that feel out of control, especially when we’re young.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 7, 2022
- 3 min
Four Ways to Engage with the Change Triangle Tool for Emotional Health
Most people have never had any emotions education at all. In 2022, this is an astounding fact. As a result of the lack of education in...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 7, 2021
- 3 min
Mourning for the Self & Healing from Trauma
Healing from trauma requires self-compassion and feeling for ourselves. Mourning paves the way to increased vitality and connectedness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel and Jean Lannin
- Dec 10, 2020
- 6 min
Surviving Loneliness: Living in the Grey
Reflections and resources to undo aloneness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 11, 2020
- 5 min
A New Way To Understand and Treat Depression and Suicidal Thoughts: Part 1 - The Story of Alex
Think depression is only about a flaw in chemistry? Think again.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 6, 2020
- 8 min
Rupture & Repair Part 2: Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Adults
Assigning fault and blame might feel good in a the moment, but it doesn’t help you or your relationship in the long run. Try this instead.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 1, 2020
- 6 min
Healing Chronic Boredom
Rachel grew up in a chaotic household. When I met her as a young adult, she didn’t seem to care much about anything.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 14, 2019
- 5 min
Disgust: A Natural Emotional Response to Abuse
Disgust is an emotion that is rarely talked about but is very important for healing from verbal, physical, and sexual abuse.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 14, 2019
- 3 min
Are You Listening?
A selection of great podcast episodes to enhance your wellbeing through an understanding of emotions and how they affect the mind and body.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 14, 2019
- 4 min
What Emotion and Trauma Theory Teach Us About Bullying
Richard, a former patient of mine, used to bully kids when he was in high school. Here's why he did it.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 15, 2018
- 4 min
Why Can’t I Shut Off My Mind?
Beth came to therapy because she could not stop her mind from worrying. She’d think about the same things over and over, getting stuck.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 14, 2017
- 4 min
The Problem With Yelling
“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 16, 2016
- 3 min
Why Am I Uncomfortable Getting Close To People?
Many of us as children or adolescents shared our feelings with the “wrong” person - someone whose response was to humiliate or reject us.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 30, 2015
- 5 min
It's Not Always Depression, Sometimes It's Shame
How can it be that a seemingly depressed person, one who shows clinical symptoms, doesn’t respond to antidepressants or psychotherapy?
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