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Welcome to Hilary's Blog

It's Not Always Depression

My Crooked Path to Becoming a Psychotherapist & Striving to Be My Authentic Self

Changing careers was scary, but hating my job was worse.

The Emotional Toll of Traumatic Brain Injury

The emotional challenges following a traumatic brain injury are many.

5 Important Things to Know About Toxic Shame

Hilary Jacobs Hendel explains the difference between healthy and toxic shame. The Change Triangle tool guides healing.

Disgust: A Natural Emotional Response to Abuse

Disgust is an emotion that is rarely talked about but is very important for healing from verbal, physical, and sexual abuse.

Am I Normal?

I suspected Robert’s sudden question about normalcy had to do with his new relationship. Love renders us vulnerable to rejection. We natural

What 'Mad Men' and Don Draper Taught Us About Trauma and Shame

Don cannot bear being alone without being drunk. Without alcohol, the emotions and longings from the past get too close to the surface.

Why We Hide

"We hide by avoiding things that will change us...We hide by asking for reassurance. We hide by letting someone else speak up and lead."

It's Not Always Depression, Sometimes It's Shame

How can it be that a seemingly depressed person, one who shows clinical symptoms, doesn’t respond to antidepressants or psychotherapy?