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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Aug 6, 20243 min read
“It’s me. Hi. I’m the problem. It’s me.” The Agony and the Ecstasy of Accountability
Shame is an excruciating emotion that makes it hard (or impossible) to be seen as hurtful, fallible, or wrong.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Aug 7, 20225 min read
My Crooked Path to Becoming a Psychotherapist & Striving to Be My Authentic Self
Changing careers was scary, but hating my job was worse.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel and Joanne Silver Jones
Mar 7, 20224 min read
The Emotional Toll of Traumatic Brain Injury
The emotional challenges following a traumatic brain injury are many.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jul 5, 20214 min read
5 Important Things to Know About Toxic Shame
Hilary Jacobs Hendel explains the difference between healthy and toxic shame. The Change Triangle tool guides healing.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 14, 20195 min read
Disgust: A Natural Emotional Response to Abuse
Disgust is an emotion that is rarely talked about but is very important for healing from verbal, physical, and sexual abuse.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
May 16, 20173 min read
Am I Normal?
I suspected Robert’s sudden question about normalcy had to do with his new relationship. Love renders us vulnerable to rejection. We natural


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 19, 20164 min read
What 'Mad Men' and Don Draper Taught Us About Trauma and Shame
Don cannot bear being alone without being drunk. Without alcohol, the emotions and longings from the past get too close to the surface.

Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jan 10, 20162 min read
Why We Hide
"We hide by avoiding things that will change us...We hide by asking for reassurance. We hide by letting someone else speak up and lead."


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jun 30, 20155 min read
It's Not Always Depression, Sometimes It's Shame
How can it be that a seemingly depressed person, one who shows clinical symptoms, doesn’t respond to antidepressants or psychotherapy?
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