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Heather Sanford, LCSW
May 2, 20242 min read
Emotions Education: A Missing Piece
Anxiety is a signal that we must tend to underlying core emotions. This video explains how. The Change Triangle is the guide.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 7, 20244 min read
Feeling Anxious? You Might Have an Internal Conflict
The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Mar 9, 20215 min read
The Important Difference Between Anxiety and Fear
Anxiety and fear are words often used interchangeably. But they are not the same! Distinguishing between anxiety and fear is crucial.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 12, 20205 min read
How to Release Sadness: Lessons from Experiential Psychotherapy
Did you ever have the feeling that you were sad and needed a good cry, but you couldn’t get the tears out? I certainly have.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jun 11, 20204 min read
4 Simple Phrases to Halt Anxious Thoughts
Speaking supportive words to ourselves will provide relief, much like a parent reassures a distressed child. Want to experiment? Try this!
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 17, 20165 min read
How To Say "NO!" When You Feel So Guilty
Saying no is hard! We need support and encouragement to set limits. But the process of learning where your boundaries begin is worth it.
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