mens health

Welcome to Hilary's Blog

It's Not Always Depression

Why You Just Can't “Get Over It”

For many of us, our early experiences with emotions involved us being told to "get over it" in one way or another.

The Danger of Escalating Anger

I was on the subway and I witnessed a needless escalation of anger that ended with somebody being punched in the face. I was shaken and...

Mourning for the Self & Healing from Trauma

Healing from trauma requires self-compassion and feeling for ourselves. Mourning paves the way to increased vitality and connectedness.

A New Way to Understand & Treat Depression: Part 2 The Story of Phil and His Grief

When someone we love dies, sadness is the healthy biological response to our loss. We cannot just ‘get over it’ or ‘suck it up’.

Fathers, Sons, & Intimacy

How would a little boy learn that it was good to express intimacy and affection if his own father could not? Answer: A little boy would not.

The Difference Between Sex and Love For Men (And Women)

Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.

The Unattainable Standard for Men

Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.