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A Welcome Letter for Parents on Emotions from Hilary and Juli
Read the one-page welcome letter excerpted from "Parents Have Feelings, Too: A Guide to Navigating Your Emotions So You And Your Family Can Thrive."
Oct 73 min read


"I Hate Myself When I Yell at My Kids" and How Understanding Emotions Helps
We can only meet our children’s feelings when we know how to meet our own.
Sep 73 min read


What Every Man Should Know About Emotions (That No One Taught Us)
Culturally, we may picture women as more emotional and men as more stoic. But neuroscience tells a different story. Having and expressing emotions isn’t a “female thing” or a “male thing.”It’s a human thing.
Jul 74 min read


Detaching with Love and Openheartedness
My teenagers' dark and surly moods, my husband's anxiety, my mother's rare show of displeasure, and my father's anger and frugality, all...
Feb 8, 20234 min read


My Crooked Path to Becoming a Psychotherapist & Striving to Be My Authentic Self
Changing careers was scary, but hating my job was worse.
Aug 7, 20225 min read


Pick Your Poison: Guilt or Resentment
For most of us the “guilt versus resentment choice” will rear its difficult head. When those times arise, here are some tips that might.
Aug 8, 20215 min read


When Buried Anger Leads to Depression & How To Heal
When someone is depressed, it's worth asking what other emotions they might have buried deep inside that need to be dealt with.
Oct 8, 20207 min read


Rupture & Repair Part 2: Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Adults
Assigning fault and blame might feel good in a the moment, but it doesn’t help you or your relationship in the long run. Try this instead.
May 6, 20208 min read

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