A New Way to Understand & Treat Depression: Part 2 The Story of Phil and His Grief
When someone we love dies, sadness is the healthy biological response to our loss. We cannot just ‘get over it’ or ‘suck it up’.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 11, 2020
- 5 min
A New Way To Understand and Treat Depression and Suicidal Thoughts: Part 1 - The Story of Alex
Think depression is only about a flaw in chemistry? Think again.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 6, 2020
- 8 min
Rupture & Repair Part 2: Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Adults
Assigning fault and blame might feel good in a the moment, but it doesn’t help you or your relationship in the long run. Try this instead.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 5, 2020
- 5 min
10 Tips to Prevent Fights with Loved Ones
More than ever people need tools to handle their emotions. We must work hard to NOT take out stress on our loved ones.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 9, 2020
- 6 min
Rupture & Repair Part 1:Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Infancy
Why do some children become sad, withdrawn, insecure, or angry, whereas others become happy, curious, affectionate, and self-confident?
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 1, 2020
- 6 min
Healing Chronic Boredom
Rachel grew up in a chaotic household. When I met her as a young adult, she didn’t seem to care much about anything.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 6, 2019
- 4 min
5 Tips to Build Emotional Resilience When the Holidays Bring Distress
It's not unusual for the holidays to bring up anxiety. But, a little emotion education and a few tips go a long way to getting through.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 12, 2019
- 3 min
Averting Disappointment on Your Birthday
Every year I was so excited for my birthday. And then came the crash.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Aug 13, 2019
- 4 min
Loss: A Cauldron of Emotions
I lost five members of my family over these past four years and it was devastating.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 15, 2019
- 5 min
What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 15, 2019
- 4 min
5 Ways To Work The Change Triangle as a Beginner
Emotions are powerful forces that affect the mind, brain, and especially the body. They have power to cause great distress.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 16, 2018
- 5 min
Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 4 Triggers
To prevail over our challenges and move forward in the way we want, we need awareness and understanding of our triggers.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 15, 2017
- 3 min
Fathers, Sons, & Intimacy
How would a little boy learn that it was good to express intimacy and affection if his own father could not? Answer: A little boy would not.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 14, 2017
- 4 min
The Problem With Yelling
“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 13, 2017
- 5 min
Why Are People Mean?
Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 15, 2016
- 4 min
Start Fantasizing!
“You cannot change the past, but you can change how you feel about the past.”
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 15, 2016
- 3 min
What Renee Taught Me About Why Some People Harm Themselves
Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 13, 2016
- 3 min
The Difference Between Sex and Love For Men (And Women)
Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 17, 2016
- 3 min
Head. Heart. Repeat.
Maintaining a connection to both our thoughts and emotions is required for optimal wellbeing.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 19, 2016
- 4 min
What 'Mad Men' and Don Draper Taught Us About Trauma and Shame
Don cannot bear being alone without being drunk. Without alcohol, the emotions and longings from the past get too close to the surface.
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