Hilary Jacobs Hendel | The Change Triangle

Being a mother is the hardest job in the world even when things go smoothly. When you have a child who suffers the hardest job gets harder.

Most people have never had any emotions education at all. In 2022, this is an astounding fact. As a result of the lack of education in...

Hilary Jacobs Hendel explains the difference between healthy and toxic shame. The Change Triangle tool guides healing.

It's hard to hold hope that healing and transformation are possible especially if nothing has helped so far. Here's why I hold hope.

Reflections and resources to undo aloneness.

When someone is depressed, it's worth asking what other emotions they might have buried deep inside that need to be dealt with.

For inner equilibrium and harmony, we have to balance our use and expenditure of energy.

When someone we love dies, sadness is the healthy biological response to our loss. We cannot just ‘get over it’ or ‘suck it up’.

Think depression is only about a flaw in chemistry? Think again.

Assigning fault and blame might feel good in a the moment, but it doesn’t help you or your relationship in the long run. Try this instead.

Why do some children become sad, withdrawn, insecure, or angry, whereas others become happy, curious, affectionate, and self-confident?

I lost five members of my family over these past four years and it was devastating.

I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.

Emotions are powerful forces that affect the mind, brain, and especially the body. They have power to cause great distress.

“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.

Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.

Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.

All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.

How can it be that a seemingly depressed person, one who shows clinical symptoms, doesn’t respond to antidepressants or psychotherapy?