childhood emotional neglect

Welcome to Hilary's Blog

It's Not Always Depression

Mourning for the Self & Healing from Trauma

Healing from trauma requires self-compassion and feeling for ourselves. Mourning paves the way to increased vitality and connectedness.

5 Important Things to Know About Toxic Shame

Hilary Jacobs Hendel explains the difference between healthy and toxic shame. The Change Triangle tool guides healing.

3 Reasons to Hold Hope for Healing Emotional Pain

It's hard to hold hope that healing and transformation are possible especially if nothing has helped so far. Here's why I hold hope.

Surviving Loneliness: Living in the Grey

Reflections and resources to undo aloneness.

When Buried Anger Leads to Depression & How To Heal

When someone is depressed, it's worth asking what other emotions they might have buried deep inside that need to be dealt with.