“It’s me. Hi. I’m the problem. It’s me.” The Agony and the Ecstasy of Accountability
Shame is an excruciating emotion that makes it hard (or impossible) to be seen as hurtful, fallible, or wrong.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 7
- 4 min
What Does Connection Feel Like?
Being connected feels good and right. But have you ever asked yourself, "What does connection feels like?"
Heather Sanford, LCSW
- May 2
- 2 min
Emotions Education: A Missing Piece
Anxiety is a signal that we must tend to underlying core emotions. This video explains how. The Change Triangle is the guide.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 7, 2023
- 6 min
Defining & Finding Your Authentic Self
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. - Aristotle Lillian, a patient of mine, didn’t know who she truly was. She lacked a...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 12, 2023
- 2 min
Why You Just Can't “Get Over It”
For many of us, our early experiences with emotions involved us being told to "get over it" in one way or another.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Aug 7, 2022
- 5 min
My Crooked Path to Becoming a Psychotherapist & Striving to Be My Authentic Self
Changing careers was scary, but hating my job was worse.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 10, 2022
- 4 min
22 Crucial Things to Know About Emotions for Emotional Health
Our dysfunctional society fails to educate us on emotions. Here are a few basics to start you on your way to more knowledge.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 7, 2021
- 3 min
Mourning for the Self & Healing from Trauma
Healing from trauma requires self-compassion and feeling for ourselves. Mourning paves the way to increased vitality and connectedness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 10, 2021
- 7 min
5 Crucial Qualities to Seek in a Life Partner
Dating tips for finding emotional intimacy and connection
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 5, 2021
- 4 min
5 Important Things to Know About Toxic Shame
Hilary Jacobs Hendel explains the difference between healthy and toxic shame. The Change Triangle tool guides healing.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 9, 2020
- 6 min
Rupture & Repair Part 1:Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Infancy
Why do some children become sad, withdrawn, insecure, or angry, whereas others become happy, curious, affectionate, and self-confident?
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 1, 2020
- 7 min
6 Tips to Improve your Emotional Health
Emotion education has the power to transform anxiety and depression, bolster your confidence, and help you feel your best self.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 6, 2019
- 4 min
5 Tips to Build Emotional Resilience When the Holidays Bring Distress
It's not unusual for the holidays to bring up anxiety. But, a little emotion education and a few tips go a long way to getting through.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Dec 17, 2018
- 4 min
Handling the Holidays When Your Parents Stress You Out
We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 15, 2018
- 5 min
Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 2 Conducting
Along with the three brains, we also have a Self. The Self is the core "you." The Self is how you were born to be.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Oct 6, 2015
- 2 min
Taking In The Love: What I Learned From Joan Armatrading
While others might have judged her as boastful, I did not. Yet, she wasn't shy to show her pride and pleasure.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 26, 2015
- 2 min
I hate feeling feelings!
I don't know about you, but I hate feeling feelings!
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