“It’s me. Hi. I’m the problem. It’s me.” The Agony and the Ecstasy of Accountability
Shame is an excruciating emotion that makes it hard (or impossible) to be seen as hurtful, fallible, or wrong.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jun 74 min read
What Does Connection Feel Like?
Being connected feels good and right. But have you ever asked yourself, "What does connection feels like?"
Heather Sanford, LCSW
May 22 min read
Emotions Education: A Missing Piece
Anxiety is a signal that we must tend to underlying core emotions. This video explains how. The Change Triangle is the guide.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 7, 20236 min read
Defining & Finding Your Authentic Self
Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. - Aristotle Lillian, a patient of mine, didn’t know who she truly was. She lacked a...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jul 12, 20232 min read
Why You Just Can't “Get Over It”
For many of us, our early experiences with emotions involved us being told to "get over it" in one way or another.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Aug 7, 20225 min read
My Crooked Path to Becoming a Psychotherapist & Striving to Be My Authentic Self
Changing careers was scary, but hating my job was worse.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jan 10, 20224 min read
22 Crucial Things to Know About Emotions for Emotional Health
Our dysfunctional society fails to educate us on emotions. Here are a few basics to start you on your way to more knowledge.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 7, 20213 min read
Mourning for the Self & Healing from Trauma
Healing from trauma requires self-compassion and feeling for ourselves. Mourning paves the way to increased vitality and connectedness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 10, 20217 min read
5 Crucial Qualities to Seek in a Life Partner
Dating tips for finding emotional intimacy and connection
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jul 5, 20214 min read
5 Important Things to Know About Toxic Shame
Hilary Jacobs Hendel explains the difference between healthy and toxic shame. The Change Triangle tool guides healing.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Mar 9, 20206 min read
Rupture & Repair Part 1:Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Infancy
Why do some children become sad, withdrawn, insecure, or angry, whereas others become happy, curious, affectionate, and self-confident?
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jan 1, 20207 min read
6 Tips to Improve your Emotional Health
Emotion education has the power to transform anxiety and depression, bolster your confidence, and help you feel your best self.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 6, 20194 min read
5 Tips to Build Emotional Resilience When the Holidays Bring Distress
It's not unusual for the holidays to bring up anxiety. But, a little emotion education and a few tips go a long way to getting through.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 17, 20184 min read
Handling the Holidays When Your Parents Stress You Out
We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
May 15, 20185 min read
Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 2 Conducting
Along with the three brains, we also have a Self. The Self is the core "you." The Self is how you were born to be.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 6, 20152 min read
Taking In The Love: What I Learned From Joan Armatrading
While others might have judged her as boastful, I did not. Yet, she wasn't shy to show her pride and pleasure.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jul 26, 20152 min read
I hate feeling feelings!
I don't know about you, but I hate feeling feelings!
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