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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Mar 12, 20234 min read
3 Reasons Why It’s Scary to Feel Good About Yourself
In the kind of psychotherapy I practice called AEDP, we often focus on feel-good emotions like joy and pride. Deepening the experience of...

Hilary Jacobs Hendel and Juli Fraga, PsyD
Sep 7, 20227 min read
Healing From Trauma Means Dealing With Disgust
This article was originally published on Slate.com on 6/20/22. Irene recently came to therapy because her anxiety had been revving up,...

Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jan 8, 20215 min read
4 Ways to Increase Joy: Putting the Science of Joy into Everyday Practice
Joy is one of the seven core emotions on the Change Triangle. Joy, like all core emotions, has a particular feeling in the body, although...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 8, 20206 min read
When Buried Anger Leads to Depression & How To Heal
When someone is depressed, it's worth asking what other emotions they might have buried deep inside that need to be dealt with.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Aug 11, 20203 min read
A New Way to Understand & Treat Depression: Part 2 The Story of Phil and His Grief
When someone we love dies, sadness is the healthy biological response to our loss. We cannot just ‘get over it’ or ‘suck it up’.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jul 11, 20205 min read
A New Way To Understand and Treat Depression and Suicidal Thoughts: Part 1 - The Story of Alex
Think depression is only about a flaw in chemistry? Think again.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 6, 20194 min read
5 Tips to Build Emotional Resilience When the Holidays Bring Distress
It's not unusual for the holidays to bring up anxiety. But, a little emotion education and a few tips go a long way to getting through.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 15, 20195 min read
What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.

Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 15, 20194 min read
5 Ways To Work The Change Triangle as a Beginner
Emotions are powerful forces that affect the mind, brain, and especially the body. They have power to cause great distress.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 14, 20174 min read
The Problem With Yelling
“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 15, 20163 min read
What Renee Taught Me About Why Some People Harm Themselves
Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 10, 20152 min read
The Best Way to Discover Something New About You!
Slowing down will allow you to notice more about your emotional world. Want to experiment?

Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 12, 20152 min read
Emotions are Physical - Listen to the Music Playing in Your Body
In 2004, I learned that emotions were physical experiences. It was an “Aha!” moment for me. Of course they are!


Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jun 30, 20155 min read
It's Not Always Depression, Sometimes It's Shame
How can it be that a seemingly depressed person, one who shows clinical symptoms, doesn’t respond to antidepressants or psychotherapy?
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