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The Two Kinds of Anger and How to Process Them
Anger happens to all of us. When we get angry, we must work with it so we don't suppress it. Suppressing anger makes us depressed and/or...
Jan 284 min read


Detaching with Love and Openheartedness
My teenagers' dark and surly moods, my husband's anxiety, my mother's rare show of displeasure, and my father's anger and frugality, all...
Feb 8, 20234 min read


Why Am I Uncomfortable Getting Close To People?
Many of us as children or adolescents shared our feelings with the “wrong” person - someone whose response was to humiliate or reject us.
Nov 16, 20163 min read


Why We Hide
"We hide by avoiding things that will change us...We hide by asking for reassurance. We hide by letting someone else speak up and lead."
Jan 10, 20162 min read


Want to Feel More Authentic? Get to Know Your Defenses!
All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.
Dec 16, 20153 min read


The Unattainable Standard for Men
Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.
Oct 27, 20153 min read

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