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Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. - Aristotle Lillian, a patient of mine, didn’t know who she truly was. She lacked a...
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 7, 20236 min read
Basic Steps to Get a Grip On Angry Impulses
I was on the subway and I witnessed a needless escalation of anger that ended with somebody being punched in the face. I was shaken and...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 7, 20223 min read
Four Ways to Engage with the Change Triangle Tool for Emotional Health
Most people have never had any emotions education at all. In 2022, this is an astounding fact. As a result of the lack of education in...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jan 10, 20224 min read
22 Crucial Things to Know About Emotions for Emotional Health
Our dysfunctional society fails to educate us on emotions. Here are a few basics to start you on your way to more knowledge.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 7, 20213 min read
Mourning for the Self & Healing from Trauma
Healing from trauma requires self-compassion and feeling for ourselves. Mourning paves the way to increased vitality and connectedness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 7, 20213 min read
Two Powerful Techniques to Lower Anxiety
Two effective techniques to decrease anxiety based on accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP) and the Change Triangle® tool.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 10, 20217 min read
5 Crucial Qualities to Seek in a Life Partner
Dating tips for finding emotional intimacy and connection
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jan 8, 20215 min read
4 Ways to Increase Joy: Putting the Science of Joy into Everyday Practice
Joy is one of the seven core emotions on the Change Triangle. Joy, like all core emotions, has a particular feeling in the body, although...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 12, 20205 min read
How to Release Sadness: Lessons from Experiential Psychotherapy
Did you ever have the feeling that you were sad and needed a good cry, but you couldn’t get the tears out? I certainly have.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 14, 20195 min read
Disgust: A Natural Emotional Response to Abuse
Disgust is an emotion that is rarely talked about but is very important for healing from verbal, physical, and sexual abuse.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 14, 20195 min read
7 Ways to Help a Child Deal with Traumatic Stress
Traumatic stress feels awful. The body tenses and succumbs to many other physiological changes leading to digestive problems and headaches,
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 12, 20152 min read
Emotions are Physical - Listen to the Music Playing in Your Body
In 2004, I learned that emotions were physical experiences. It was an “Aha!” moment for me. Of course they are!
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jul 26, 20152 min read
I hate feeling feelings!
I don't know about you, but I hate feeling feelings!
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