On the Change Triangle®, guilt sits above the core emotions and can block access to what we truly feel. When we take guilt at face value, we risk overriding the deeper emotions being blocked by our guilt. When we get curious about it, we reconnect with deeper wisdom.

The phrase "let them" helps us identify our impulse to control. This is brilliant. Emotional freedom, however, requires another step. To stop the impulse to control others, we must feel and process the emotions our defenses try to protect us from. In other words, before we can truly “let them,” we need to tend to the emotions that exist deep within us.

Feeling like a nagging wife or partner? Here’s a tip to change that dynamic.

The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.

For most of us the “guilt versus resentment choice” will rear its difficult head. When those times arise, here are some tips that might.

(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...

Thinking before we speak is a skill that requires practice over a lifetime. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about caring enough to try.

Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I