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It's Not Always Depression

Apr 7, 20236 min read

Basic Steps to Get a Grip On Angry Impulses

I was on the subway and I witnessed a needless escalation of anger that ended with somebody being punched in the face. I was shaken and...

Feb 8, 20234 min read

Detaching with Love and Openheartedness

My teenagers' dark and surly moods, my husband's anxiety, my mother's rare show of displeasure, and my father's anger and frugality, all...

May 9, 20224 min read

“He’s an Idiot!” Considering the Judgments We All Make

"He's an idiot," my father would snap when someone didn't do something the way he wanted. It didn't bother me then. But now I realize my...

May 14, 20194 min read

Why Did I Do That?

How often do we take time to contemplate whether we are acting from an impulsive place?

Jan 15, 20194 min read

To Prevent Misunderstandings, Question Intent

Thinking before we speak is a skill that requires practice over a lifetime. It’s not about being perfect, it’s about caring enough to try.

Aug 15, 20172 min read

Is This a George Costanza Moment?

You know that moment when you feel the jolt of being knocked out of your calm or usual emotional state? Maybe you’re walking down the...

Feb 13, 20175 min read

Why Are People Mean?

Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I