Loosening the Grip of Perfectionism (Part 1)
Perfectionism gives us the illusion of control in the midst of emotions that feel out of control, especially when we’re young.
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- Aug 7
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One Fast, Easy Tip To Combat Self Consciousness & Social Anxiety
Ever walk into a room and feel all eyes are looking at you? You imagine people are judging your every flaw. You start to shrink and think...
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- May 8
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For Mothers with Children Who Struggle
Being a mother is the hardest job in the world even when things go smoothly. When you have a child who suffers the hardest job gets harder.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel and Joanne Silver Jones
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The Emotional Toll of Traumatic Brain Injury
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 7, 2022
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Four Ways to Engage with the Change Triangle Tool for Emotional Health
Most people have never had any emotions education at all. In 2022, this is an astounding fact. As a result of the lack of education in...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jan 10, 2022
- 4 min
22 Crucial Things to Know About Emotions for Emotional Health
Our dysfunctional society fails to educate us on emotions. Here are a few basics to start you on your way to more knowledge.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Nov 7, 2021
- 3 min
Two Powerful Techniques to Lower Anxiety
Two effective techniques to decrease anxiety based on accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP) and the Change Triangle® tool.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 7, 2021
- 5 min
From Confusion to Clarity
(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Mar 9, 2021
- 5 min
The Important Difference Between Anxiety and Fear
Anxiety and fear are words often used interchangeably. But they are not the same! Distinguishing between anxiety and fear is crucial.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel and Jean Lannin
- Dec 10, 2020
- 6 min
Surviving Loneliness: Living in the Grey
Reflections and resources to undo aloneness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 10, 2020
- 5 min
The Key to Inner Balance
For inner equilibrium and harmony, we have to balance our use and expenditure of energy.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jun 11, 2020
- 4 min
4 Simple Phrases to Halt Anxious Thoughts
Speaking supportive words to ourselves will provide relief, much like a parent reassures a distressed child. Want to experiment? Try this!
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- May 6, 2020
- 8 min
Rupture & Repair Part 2: Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Adults
Assigning fault and blame might feel good in a the moment, but it doesn’t help you or your relationship in the long run. Try this instead.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 1, 2020
- 6 min
Healing Chronic Boredom
Rachel grew up in a chaotic household. When I met her as a young adult, she didn’t seem to care much about anything.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Apr 15, 2019
- 5 min
What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Feb 15, 2019
- 4 min
5 Ways To Work The Change Triangle as a Beginner
Emotions are powerful forces that affect the mind, brain, and especially the body. They have power to cause great distress.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 16, 2018
- 3 min
Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 14, 2017
- 4 min
The Problem With Yelling
“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Sep 15, 2016
- 3 min
What Renee Taught Me About Why Some People Harm Themselves
Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
- Jul 13, 2016
- 3 min
The Difference Between Sex and Love For Men (And Women)
Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.
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