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When You Make a Mistake, What Happens Next?
When you make a mistake do you pick yourself up or beat yourself up?
Oct 7, 20242 min read


Emotions Education: A Missing Piece
Anxiety is a signal that we must tend to underlying core emotions. This video explains how. The Change Triangle is the guide.
May 2, 20242 min read


Feeling Anxious? You Might Have an Internal Conflict
The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.
Feb 7, 20244 min read


Loosening the Grip of Perfectionism (Part 1)
Perfectionism gives us the illusion of control in the midst of emotions that feel out of control, especially when we’re young.
Dec 10, 20235 min read


One Fast, Easy Tip To Combat Self Consciousness & Social Anxiety
Ever walk into a room and feel all eyes are looking at you? You imagine people are judging your every flaw. You start to shrink and think...
Aug 7, 20234 min read


For Mothers with Children Who Struggle
Being a mother is the hardest job in the world even when things go smoothly. When you have a child who suffers the hardest job gets harder.
May 8, 20233 min read


The Emotional Toll of Traumatic Brain Injury
The emotional challenges following a traumatic brain injury are many.
Mar 7, 20224 min read


Four Ways to Engage with the Change Triangle Tool for Emotional Health
Most people have never had any emotions education at all. In 2022, this is an astounding fact. As a result of the lack of education in...
Feb 7, 20223 min read


22 Crucial Things to Know About Emotions for Emotional Health
Our dysfunctional society fails to educate us on emotions. Here are a few basics to start you on your way to more knowledge.
Jan 10, 20224 min read


Two Powerful Techniques to Lower Anxiety
Two effective techniques to decrease anxiety based on accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP) and the Change Triangle® tool.
Nov 7, 20213 min read


From Confusion to Clarity
(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...
May 7, 20215 min read


The Important Difference Between Anxiety and Fear
Anxiety and fear are words often used interchangeably. But they are not the same! Distinguishing between anxiety and fear is crucial.
Mar 9, 20215 min read


Surviving Loneliness: Living in the Grey
Reflections and resources to undo aloneness.
Dec 10, 20206 min read


The Key to Inner Balance
For inner equilibrium and harmony, we have to balance our use and expenditure of energy.
Sep 10, 20205 min read


4 Simple Phrases to Halt Anxious Thoughts
Speaking supportive words to ourselves will provide relief, much like a parent reassures a distressed child. Want to experiment? Try this!
Jun 11, 20204 min read


Rupture & Repair Part 2: Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Adults
Assigning fault and blame might feel good in a the moment, but it doesn’t help you or your relationship in the long run. Try this instead.
May 6, 20208 min read


Healing Chronic Boredom
Rachel grew up in a chaotic household. When I met her as a young adult, she didn’t seem to care much about anything.
Feb 1, 20206 min read


What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
Apr 15, 20195 min read


5 Ways To Work The Change Triangle as a Beginner
Emotions are powerful forces that affect the mind, brain, and especially the body. They have power to cause great distress.
Feb 15, 20194 min read


Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Sep 16, 20183 min read

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